So, my MIL is getting married in a few days and since we're in England the number of guests are very limited.
She is getting married for the fifth time and to a man I have never met nor knew existed until about a month ago. My DH has met him but nobody else in the family has. They met online about 8 weeks ago.
The ceremony is about 3-4 hours drive away from where we live and it's a mid-morning ceremony (and it's only a ceremony, no dinner etc) which means we either have to go there the evening before and stay somewhere local or get up ridiculously early to get there on time on the day. Me and the kids weren't invited originally but yesterday MIL changed her mind as others have declined the invitation. My husband thinks we should go, I don't. I think he should go, but not all of us.
We're in tier 3, the ceremony in a tier 2 area.They are both 70+ and my kids have been in and out of isolation all autumn due to confirmed cases in their school/friend groups. My youngest has missed so much school and I just want him to be able to attend school as much as possible as he's doing his A-levels. I also don't want to risk bringing Covid with us should he pick something up during the week at school.
I told my DH we're not going and he said she'll be very hurt by that and he definitely thinks we should all go.
To be honest, I might have gone if she was marrying a long term partner who I had any type of relationship with but I don't even know what this man looks like and MIL has never been particularly supportive of me so I doubt she would have made similar effort for me.
Am I unreasonable to think that anyone having a wedding under these conditions should expect that their guests might not jump for joy at the idea of going?