And what would you have done/said?

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My boy was having a paddy. He is 4.
A toddler went up to him and my boy did a "grr" to the boy who immediately looked shocked and fled in tears.
mum of tot asked what was wrong so i casually said "ahh, he has just made a monster face at him and went "grr".
to which mum of tot said " oh what a nasty little boy.

With much emphasis on the nasty.

i had had enough of ds and his paddy so scooped him up and put him into the car. Said nothing but was miffed at that...would you be?
and, would you say some thing like that to some one?

(IMHO she was a snotty yummy mummy cow any way)

I would have been miffed - and if I had been the other mother I wuold have said something like "glad it's not mine kicking off for a change"

nope wouldn't say that, would probably get mine to give a grrr back.

pity she has such a sensitive child

Ignore her and inside think
'tee-hee, she's got it all to come in a few years'

i would have told her to shut her gobbins and stop namby pambying her little boy

Ditto Waynetta, I'd have said and thought the same!

If I had been the mum of the crying toddler, I might have been a little upset about his being made to cry but I wouldn't have described your ds as 'nasty'! If other children make my ds cry, I tend to try to brush it off: 'Oh, that little boy was only playing monsters, why don't you make your best monster face and growl too!' (all said in bright and breezy tones!)

If I'd been you, on the other hand, and feeling VERY brave, I'd have said loudly to my ds, 'Take no notice of that nasty woman, ds, I think you're gorgeous even with your monster face on!'

I'm not sure what I would have said, but I would have been seething inside

Ha slayerette! as if i would EVER have the balls to say soem thing like that....i was thinking it tho!!!

My ds was a bit shocked by a boy at the school 'grrring' at him the otehr day, weird as he is ALWAYS 'grrring' at home, but anyway, I certainly didnt think the other monster was a nasty little boy, just that mine was being oversensitive.

LOL was it you????

although you dont sound like a yummy mummy cow newtsandfrogs!

As mother of crying toddler I would have told my child that your ds was just being very grumpy at the moment and wouldn't have meant to scare him - in fact I'd have probably said that to teh toddler if i were you too.

And I would have said something to the mother "he's not nasty, just a little testing at the moment - don't worry, your turn will come" all with such a sweet smile on my face that nobody could possibly know I was really thinking "Fuck off and die you judgemental cow"

Hahaha, no. I just said to DS 'Arghh, is that monster going to get you, quick turn into a dragon and fly away'
As for yummy mummy I'm more of a tummy mummy

pmsl pru

Can't stand these types of holier than thou parents. They're toddlers ffs. You did the right thing (although I wouldn't have blamed you if you'd called her a thoroughly nasty and miserable woman).

I probably wouldn't have said anything at the time, then would have been cross that I hadn't said:
"must be wonderful to have a perfect child"
"yours will be 4 one day"
"thanks for your support"
"he'll snap out of his nasty mood sooner than you stop being a snooty self-righteous cow"

Hope she's a MNetter and reads this. No-one likes their child being frightened or upset, but it doesn't make your child a nasty boy. How does she think that made your DS, let alone you, feel?!

I (might) have said 'Oh what a nasty woman.