Anyone else has a DH who drinks every night and talks shit

[yarncakes]

Cos I am just about done with it. My DH drinks every single night, drowning his sorrows about this and that and feeling sorry for himself. He's not the only one in this situation we're in (don't want to go into details about it? and He doesn't think about me, about my mental health or what I am going through but I am still plodding on and still standing. Anyway that's another story but when he drinks, he isn't getting totally drunk but just on the verge and my goodness He talks absolutely shit and I really can't be doing with it. I just stare at him and wish it would be over. Then he wants sex with his stinky alcoholic breath lurking over me and I tell him to piss ort because I don't want sex with someone whose been drinking. I don't like it and it is a total turnoff. I am teetotal as I have a child to look after so both of us drinking is not really appropriate. I'm just sick of it. He always tries to pick an argument as well and I just walk off because if I carry on, I will literally blow. Anyone else.. Or just me?

I felt sorry for my mum. for putting up with this for years. then I started to feel angry and hurt that she hadn't protected us kids.
There's an AA for relatives , hope you can somehow get yourself and your child out.

You have my heartfelt sympathy OP. I married an alcoholic when I was very young with no idea that his behaviour had any red flags as my father was an alcoholic and I thought it was normal.

I would advise you to talk to Al-Anon which is for family members of alcoholics. They will help you learn how to distance and protect yourself and your dc. People with addictions are very cunning and manipulative and good at getting their own way. You need to learn how to recognise it for what it is and stop ‘enabling ‘ it. Bloody hard but you won’t be alone as they are very supportive.
Also, you don’t want your dc to learn this behaviour; my df was an alcoholic, I married one , both my dc marriage alcoholics, thankfully they are separated from them, but so the damage goes down the generations.
I send you a 🤗 and wish you loads of strength and support. Don’t waste your life on him, you can’t change him.

My dh can be like this.
He waffles on and moans about work all night. He forgets whole conversations we’ve had. He repeats himself and also what annoys me the most is he doesn’t let me speak and talks over me, almost like the conversation is actually with himself. Honestly bores the shit out of me.
He’s actually done sober October and done really well. I feel really proud of him. I hope he keeps it up and at the moment is saying he wants to but I do think hes maybe an “all or nothing” type of person and will never be able to enjoy a drink in moderation.
I’m supportive without being pushy BUT I’m afraid to say I think he’ll be drinking as normal by the end of next week.

My ex was like this, but thankfully only on a part-time basis. Fridays, Saturdays, Sundays, pissed and talking shit.

If he'd done it every night, I might have binned him off sooner.

LTB, OP.

Yes, my ex husband was exactly like this. The shit talking is the worst, I never even wanted to reply because I felt like I was wasting my breath. It got worse, he drank more and eventually started passing out on the sofa, which I loved because it meant that I didn't have to have the smelly pig in my bed. After a few more years of this I couldn't face my life with him and asked him to move out.

Mine doesn't drink atall thank god that sounds shit op. Hope you are ok x

Sounds like my mother. Talks shit when has had drink. Jumps from one subject to another, mumbles, makes no sense. I hated (hate) her. Now my dad has died, I’m not interested in talking to her and she rants on about my cousins, how lucky her sister is when me and my brother moved away (as far as we could) and her sister’s dc all live near her. Clueless, zero self awareness.

Why are you with him, OP?