Kids, work, house too much for a brain to cope with.

[headlock]

I love my family, they're all healthy, I'm happy and financially secure and have a lot to feel grateful for. but most days feel like 100 miles an hour. My husband more than does his bit, he's a great husband and dad but there are some days that push me to my absolute limits.
Maybe it's because of COVID, it feels like there isn't anything to look forward to, even getting out for a meal isn't easy. Things just feel like a groundhog slog everyday just now.
I think I just feel a bit weary today and could do with a break from the kids.

Solidarity. I could have written this exact same post.
Feeling really fed up and no chance of a break. At least in normal times you can look fwd to a night out or something.

we've just got to hang on in there.

I just feel like my brain is going in four different directions all the time. Total overload.

And thank you. 💐

This!

I was trying to explain this to DP, I said “I don’t feel like a person” 🤦🏼‍♀️

I describe it s feeling like there are bees in my head.

Completely empathise. It feels like there’s no escape from responsibilities at the moment. We’re also luckier than many but still finding a bit overwhelming.

Same! Normally when I feel like this I'd organise a girls night in (or out).

I always have a wobble about too much mental load in November or December each year.
I think the added pressure of Christmas organisation on top of work and family just tips me over edge.
My DH doesn't see it... Promises to help but would be running around like headless chicken Christmas Eve... And my blood pressure won't cope with that!
Covid has also made life so repetitive and boring

You have my sympathy

I agree, it’s tough.

I think I’m putting a lot of pressure on myself to make things nice for the kids when they can hardly do anything. The impending possibility of no Christmas events, perhaps not even meeting up with family, is also crushing me a bit - I want to still make it a wonderful time for them. DH is good but I know he doesn’t feel the same pressure, sometimes I feel like this one-man-band of fun and it’s exhausting.

It is sinking in now how much my children will miss. I know I’m speaking from a point of privilege, which makes me feel guilty and embarrassed, but there are so many things they would have experienced had things been normal that they just won’t, possibly for a long time, possibly ever because they might just be too old but the time this is finished. I am grateful for our health and comfort, but it’s harder to sustain that gratitude the longer this lasts and the more it feels like we are losing out on.

Right there with you, and having this impending sense of doom all the time that the powers the be will ruin all the things I had planned for the rest of the year. No point getting excited about anything any more.

My life revolves around work, which is a very stressful job, praying that the kids can still go to school (only 1 of 3 will make it next week), food shopping & that's it.

Yet somehow my brain feels like its overloaded, and cannot cope with another spanner in the works on anything. Feels like I've been fighting fires non stop since this time last year with no end in sight.

Yep. Shit, isn't it. And I've only got one child, working part time. Today was my day "off" (ha) which consisted of a still-slightly-ill 2 year old complaining for 9 hours, a trip to Sainsbury's in the rain, a mega load of laundry which DS turned off mid-cycle, and a barrage of messages from MiL about Christmas gifts. I miss my mum and dad (tier 3, we are 1).

I'm going to the cinema tonight on my own, and am going to buy a bucket of sickly Christmas coffee from Costa.

I could have written this. I am so fed up. And tired. I'm also really lucky & have to keep reminding myself of this (which then makes me feel guilty!). We will get through this, it's just going to take some time!

Same

Same, recently. Can you shift some routines around to get some time to yourself? Kick them all out for the day?

Same OP. My 8 month old slept rubbish last night so I’ve been feeling tired and down all day. My 3 year old DD is lovely but it’s so, so draining. I’m sure it’s Covid weariness. In a normal circumstance I’d have a lot more help from people and a lot more going on in my life! I’m sure all I’ve done for the last 8 months is childcare and house cleaning!

Empathy. Also could have written this!
Work FT, one school age, one toddler. DH pulls his weight physically but doesn’t really help with the mental load. Life is exhausting. I’m just waiting for something. I don’t know what.

I’m in Wales and everything is shut. Gym helps me but I can’t go. Just spent a whole week doing arts and crafts and splashing in muddy puddles. Sounds idyllic but I feel broken.

Same, I have bitten off more than I can chew at the moment, major house renovations, doing a masters, training for some thing separate that I’ve always wanted to do, and then Christmas on top is making my head explode. Have decided to deal with it by making myself really healthy food, drinking less and generally giving myself some forgiveness if everything isn’t good enough. It’s my own fault for doing too much, but my head is just spinning.