Kids' grandparents visiting from Bolton

[themuminator]

The kids' grandparents are apparently visiting from Bolton this weekend.
Their grandad has cancer and I believe it is now terminal.
I'm separated from kids' dad and there is no contact between us.
I've said it's fine for them to go see them of course, they need all the time they can get with their dying grandad.

But... AIBU to think that they shouldn't be traveling? It's against the lockdown rules. I'm really sorry he's not got long left, but many other people have died without being able to day goodbye and they stuck to the rules to protect others.

Yabvu

Hes dying for gods sake! Rules seem rather redundant surely

The rules can go out of the window. Grandad wants to see his grandchildren, knowing that it may be for the last time. He wants to make some memories during the time he has left.

If they were coming down to attend a big event and sneeze all over town then fair enough. But a terminally ill man coming to see his grandchildren? Ok imo. Be sensible, take precautions but for god's sake have some humanity.

It's fine. It's not advised but it's not illegal. If you have any compassion leave the, "I'm sorry but" statements out of it.

Ok starting to think my misgivings are misplaced!
I've kept my thoughts to myself about this but it's good to get the perspective on it.
I didn't visit my grandma, who died last week, during the summer because I was worried about her catching anything from me. So maybe I'm just very cautious.

You are actually allowed to see people who are dying. I'm in the highest tier and it still applies

@Brightermornings
Oh I didn't know that. Thanks that's really useful info.
Ok so IABU!

It's hard to know what to do for the best but I think you should let them go. This could be there last time x

I would definitely let them go.

@Brightermornings
I would have done anyway :-) I would never deny them the chance to see their grandad before he dies.

I guess I was just questioning whether or not they should be traveling. But it's good to hear there are exceptions for extenuating circumstances.

Fuck the rule. My MIL is terminal and we will break any rules we need to to ensure we see her as much as possible. Luckily we aren't currently in an area where it would be a rule break to see her, but we are prepared to break rules to do so and will be breaking rules to give her one final large family christmas.

I think it would be better if people travelled to them. Having lost a relative and not been able to see them before they died I would never stop someone saying their dying relative.

Jesus. YABU

Yeah Bolton is in Tier three- but lots of Bolton is semi rural-and I guess if they are elderly and he has cancer they wont have been out lots. There's no risk to the kids so why even worry about the covid guidance. He's dying fgs

I'd love the 13% who think you are being reasonable to explain why!

I hate the expression “it’s the rules”. The “rules” aren’t always set up with our best interests at heart. I’m certain there’s people out there who’d wear masks in bed if the “rules” told them to.

Regardless of rules I think common sense has to prevail.
I'm glad you've realised it's ok OP.
We live in Bolton as do both sets of grandparents.

Our whole family have been in isolation and my parents inlaw don't go out anywhere as my mil was on the shielding list. We waited for 3 days after our 14 days finished then went and had a quick visit with them as it will be another long term without the kids seeing their grandparents.
.we video call regularly and so my one year old is in awe when we actually physically see them I'm sure she thinks they really only exist in the phone!

We live in Bolton as do both sets of grandparents

We live in Bolton too. Do you know whether people in Bolton are allowed to visit other nearby towns?

I think tier 3 means no travel out of the town unless it is for work, education or a caring responsibility.