To think that my parents should have better things to do when I'm in labour than to bloody argue!

[MrsTittleMouse]

Just found out that my Mum is seriously pissed off because I didn't phone her up when I went into hospital to have DD. Apparently I'd promised her that I would. She phoned my Dad (because I was staying with him at the time) to have a chat with me, and my Dad was very coy about where I was and they had a huge arguement. Why did she have to tell me about the arguement? Why didn't my Dad tell her where I was (he wasn't given a big formal announcement by us BTW, just guessed when we mysteriously disappeared during the night)? Why didn't they have better things to worry about when their only surviving child was in labour?

It sounds like your mum may have been a bit jealous that your dad knew (or guessed) before she did!

I mean, that was selfish of you not to ring her while you were in extreme pain, trying to deliver your LO! . Surely she can't expect you to try and put everything on hold and ring her?

At the end of the day, it's not about her, it's about you, your DH and your new baby - congrats by the way, what did you have?

it's sad that your mum is pissed off at a time when she should be happy about a new granddaughter. Very sad that she can't see past what sounds like bitterness and resentment.

Hope it all resolves without taking too much of your energy, you'll need all your energy to concentrate on your new dd.

Sorry - just noticed you had a DD!

oh dear, how awful. I'm sure your mum will be horrified when she takes a moment to think and realises what she's done.

Maybe it's just a manifestation of stress - if you're the only surviving child she may have been having subconscious worries about something happening to you in labour.

Forget it and enjoy your lovely new baby! Congratulations!

YANBU but they are parents too- you'll suddenly find you understand & forgive them an awful lot being one yourself!

Well I know I did!

Congratulations as well enjoy the DD!

DD isn't a newborn any more, so I supposed I'm supposed to be grateful that it wasn't brought up when I was still bleeding. Mum is jealous because she assumes that I have a "special bond" with my Dad. It's a load of clap-trap; the only advantage that he has is that he's the kind of person who doesn't tell me about the big arguement they had when I was in labour!!!

YANBU. I know how you feel. I phoned my parents to ask them to come over to babysit when I went into labour with ds, and they were both drunk and had had a row. Bloody useless pair

Oh no! What did you do? Were you able to find anyone else to babysit?

Thankfully I have a lovely reliable sister, who is more than happy to help out when needed . Tbh that sort of thing is just typical of my parents (especially mum) .

Sorry about the hijack!

mrstittlemouse was you mum not embarrassed to admit to rowing instead of worrying about you?

I think she felt justified because 1) I had promised her that I would phone her (why? why did I make such a stupid promise?) and 2) it was a bit silly of my Dad to be so coy about where I was.
I was very concerned that people didn't find out that I was in labour, so I suppose that's where Dad got it from. As it turned out, I had contractions for almost 3 days before I even went into active labour, and even though I was a "good 5, almost 6cm" when I arrived at the hospital, it was another 14.5 hours until DD was born, so I was right that it would take a while! I think I would have felt a lot of pressure if I knew people were phoning up. And also, my Mum isn't the kind of person who can go about her normal business when she's so excited, it really does show on her face, so people would have guessed.

when she told you what purpose was there for her admission? was she admitting she had been silly? was she informing you that she was hurt/felt jealous or was she somehow still looking for an apology?

Nah! It was all said in a soulful and hurt manner. And I did apologise! And I still feel slightly guilty!!!

Well shes had her unwarranted apology so I gues you can both move on...net time (if there is one) tell her your dh will ring once the baby has arrived!