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What an awful world right now, how do you all keep positive ?

73 replies

RajaGemini · 29/10/2020 16:06

The main thing being the pandemic, then 3 terrorist attacks in France in the past week in which people have been beheaded, more and more people diagnosed with cancer (in the media, Sarah Harding, Lisa from So Solid Crew, Tracey Emin to name a few)
House deposits rising, people's futures looking bleak.

OP posts:
PumpkinPie2016 · 29/10/2020 16:39

I am fortunate enough to have a job I love which I have to leave the house to do (teaching). It's even more hectic than normal at present but I am embracing that as much as I can. Keeping busy definitely helps!

Running -I run a route that has some beautiful scenery. Reading books, watching box sets with DH -yes minister and the good life currently. Both old but funny, light viewing.

I try not to watch/read the news much. Obviously it can't be avoided completely but when I was watching/reading a lot, it was making me quite anxious. So, I have stopped.

snowstorm2012 · 29/10/2020 16:40

Wine too. Whilst watching Eurovision Fire Saga which sadly is my favourite film now along with The Hangover Grin

Emma10702 · 29/10/2020 16:49

I’ve been struggling for a while with anxiety and this week has been a tipping point. I’ve spoken to my docs & I’m caving and having some low level meds. I don’t want to but I’ve got young kids and need to get through the next couple of months without spiralling. I’m also avoiding the news & trying to read more rather than mess around on my phone
Some good strategies on here. I’m also thinking forward to Xmas and prepping lots of nice bits so we can have an amazing time

cariadlet · 29/10/2020 16:50

The pandemic and Brexit are depressing if I think about them. I just pray Trump doesn't get re-elected. 3 disasters in the same year would be horrendous.

But apart from those (huge) things, I think that this year has the same mixture of good and bad as every year.

There have been some terrible terrorist incidents recently but I grew up at a time when there were daily deaths in Northern Ireland and occasional bombings on the British mainland so to me it's only the nature of the terrorist threat that's new. A couple of years ago, Isis controlled a massive part if the Middle East but now the Caliphate has been destroyed which is real positive news.

Every year, people get diagnosed with cancer. That's nothing new. Maybe the people in the news recently are just people you relate to more, or maybe you've just taken more notice because we're more aware of illness and death announcements after the daily briefings back in the Spring.

I'm a fairly optimistic and positive person anyway and am incredibly lucky at the moment because my job is safe, I live in a part of the country that hasn't been hit hard and none of my family or friends have been ill with covid.

That probably makes it easier to look on the bright side of things and to try to turn negatives into positives.

Our Easter and Summer holidays were cancelled which was initially disappointing but I ended up really enjoying having that time in the garden and really relaxing. I also used the summer holidays to get fit and lose weight, both of which have helped me to feel positive about myself.

I'm a primary school teacher and have a lovely class this year. They settled back into school incredibly well after such a long break and I loved last term.

The weather this week has been awful but I've enjoyed curling up on the settee and working my way through some of the films that I've recorded and never have time to watch, and my pile of unread books.

We usually go away for a few days on Boxing day but that obviously won't happen so I made my Christmas cake and have enjoyed looking through my recipes to see what else I want to bake for Christmas.

Having Strictly, Bake Off and Only Connect back on tv all make me happy. I actually prefer the new socially distanced Strictly - still plenty of dancing but not so much of the annoying bits.

The only thing that's really denting my positive mood at the moment is my teenage dd who seems to have gone nocturnal this week and is lying next to me, fast asleep and snoring worse than dp does.

rc22 · 29/10/2020 16:53

@pinkearedcow Same here. Just DH and I and we've never really bothered with Halloween but we're having pumpkins, candles, takeaway,spooky films and trick or treat type sweets on Saturday night. Hoping it'll feel a bit like a special occasion and cheer us up!

Whenwillow · 29/10/2020 16:56

Deleting Facebook

ArabellaScott · 29/10/2020 17:01

Walks outside. Exercise. Daylight. Try not to think about things too much, one day at a time.

NotAKaren · 29/10/2020 17:03

Work
Baking and cooking new things
Christmas Prep
Keeping busy with little projects around the house
Switch off news/ social media when it gets too much
Trying not to worry about things I have no control of
Trying to be glass half full and think of things that I grateful for - family, health, job, home
Wine
More wine

lotusbell · 29/10/2020 17:06

As others have said, I've been doing ok until recently. OH furloughed then back to work in June, I was wfh until August. Live 1 min away from my widowed dad so able to see him as part of my bubble, generally very lucky. I don't go out much anyway so cant honestly say my immediate life has been massively affected but...its just so bloody miserable. The weather is definitely not helping my mood.

IndiaMay · 29/10/2020 17:07

Read lots of novels I can burrow myself cosily into, watch TV (not news but funny series like Brooklyn99), long walks with laugh out loud podcasts during my wfh lunchbreak, unfortunately I have put on a bit of podge enjoying cooking and hot chocolate in the evening but I'm not overweight so dont need to worry yet, cuddle my cat, minor weekly breakdowns

Whoateallthecheese · 29/10/2020 17:09

Cut down on reading the news and amount of time spent on social media. Getting outside every day for a walk or run. Trying to remember it won't last forever. Taking it a day at a time.

YellowandGreenToBeSeen · 29/10/2020 17:10

Wine

By remembering we are all struggling & the world isn’t singling me out

By trying to count blessings / positives

Wine

Gardening and planting bulbs for the spring

Wine

By praying / imagining / hoping Trump loses.

That last one gives me real real real hope.

Ilovemyhairbeingstroked · 29/10/2020 17:11

Try to switch off from the things that don’t affect you personally - might seem so harsh , but I find it helps at the moment to get through.

NotAKaren · 29/10/2020 17:14

Agreed @YellowandGreenToBeSeen I am afraid to be too hopeful about Trump but I think everything will seem better if he goes.

PenOrPencil · 29/10/2020 17:15

We have stopped watching the news. I can deal with reading a paper, but no more tv news.
Escapism tv, books, keeping busy with hobbies.
Daily Stoic.
Alcohol.

Notlostjustexploring · 29/10/2020 17:15

I'm trying to change my own corner of the world, trying to cut down on plastic usage one thing at a time, which makes me feel like I'm achieving lots of mini goals as well as feeling in control of something. I love wood pulp sponges.
Living in the moment with my kids
Cooking and eating nourishing food.
Outside at least once a day
Denial about everything.

All of the above are only available due to antidepressants.

ScubaSteven · 29/10/2020 17:17

I've been using the 'fake it 'til you make it' philosophy which has sort of been working up until a few weeks ago. A few family stresses and then the downtime to think about things have resulted in being back on anti depressants which I haven't needed for a couple of years.

The way I see it though is that it will help me to get through the tough bit, I need to stay positive for my kids and so I need to do whatever it takes to keep going. I hate that our lives are being dictated to us, I miss having freedom and not being scared.

Inextremis · 29/10/2020 17:18

Live life like a dog. Wake up every morning just glad to be alive, and be happy that there's food to look forward to. Appreciate all types of weather - and mud. Avoid alcohol, it causes more anxiety than it alleviates.

AuntieMarys · 29/10/2020 17:19

I had a massive meltdown last night. The family drowning in the Channel finished me off.
I am avoiding the news and all the conflicting covid information. Keeping away from the gin as I think that could tip me over the edge.
Exercise, jigsaws, Schitts Creek and neom candles.

Katjolo · 29/10/2020 17:21

Family walks, feeding the ducks with my toddler, reading, watching escapism TV and drinking wine 😃

rowangowan · 29/10/2020 17:22

I totally agree. I was really struggling and anxious a few weeks ago. I'm not as bad now, but I ration how much news I watch/read/listen to & not have it there constantly all day. I make sure I do some exercise each day and I have a book on the go, so when I take a break from wfh I'll have a cup of tea and read for 10 mins rather than just go on google, fb, etc. Looking at the pps it seems like lots of people are having to consciously make time for relaxing activities rather than it just being a natural part of the day when we could meet friends, socialise, etc.

CoffeeandChocolateplease · 29/10/2020 17:23

Meditation - I've had a bout of anxiety the last few weeks but meditation and mindfulness seems to have helped a lot. I use the Headspace app.

Getting out into the fresh air for walks.

Knitting.

Being kind to myself - I'm self employed and have a tendency to not say no to work but I've been strict with how much I can take on.

Reading. I'm also limiting social media and the news so try to have a book to hand to read instead.

Cutting back on mumsnet - the coronavirus section in particular.

Vitamins - I take vitamin D and C, makes me feel like I am doing something positive.

Like some others, we don't really do Halloween but we've been planning a party just the 4 of us and a film. I've also started Christmas prep as well. Just having something to look forward to has helped.

Hang in there, one day at a time.

TheAirbender · 29/10/2020 17:29

I've just read that Lisa from So Solid doesn't actually have cervical cancer, she has abnormal cells. I hope that is true and is one thing you can strike from your list OP.

I keep sane because my children give me joy and hope, because I love my husband deeply and because we have a dog. Exercise, reading, great TV (currently Lucifer on Netflix).

Inkpaperstars · 29/10/2020 17:29

What a cutie @Helenluvsrob

lidoshuffle · 29/10/2020 17:30

I tell myself when my grandmother was my age she was being bombed out in the Blitz. A far as pandemics go it could be worse - bubonic plague, cholera etc like in the past.

I've got a comfy home, as much food as I want, lots to entertain me. I just count my blessings, grind on and avoid the news.

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