To feel ive grown apart from most people I know?

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My circle just...isn't the same anymore.

I don't enjoy the company of most people I know anywhere near what I used to. I can take it or leave it.

I feel like my views, outlooks and everything is just...different.

In neither a good or bad way and I still love my circle to pieces they're good people but where do you go when you feel like this?

To change your circle overnight is difficult and where I leave (small town) most people are similar on their views/ outlooks and interest so I feel like I'm kinda stuck.

Anyone else feel like this - past or present?

I sort of understand what your feeling. I have a friend who is great for going dancing with but terrible for being a person to go to vent about stuff. I felt really disappointed but I've grown to accept that I don't want to lose the friendship but recognise that I'd go to them just for x, for vent ill go to y etc makes it easy to still stay friends and if they talk about something I don't agree with, I just stay quiet and ay something and that usually changes topic quickly!

There must be one person who shares some similar views to you so if you to talk about things around those views go to that person. Those who don't must have something else like they are great to hang out with instead.

I’ve changed my circles of friends a lot over the past 20 years since high school. I think that’s pretty normal. As you change over time your people often change too. For me, moving cities, changing jobs etc have always come with a new circle of friends. I also tend to only be able to actively manage 5-10 close friends at a time because I prefer close friends to acquaintances but that’s me.

It’s very normal, OP, you outgrow people and often you no longer have as much in common.

Just make sure you don’t drop old friends though - you may regret it later.

@VestaTilley that sounds like good advice. Although (as harsh as it sounds) some of them utterly bore me

I’m early 50’s and now find I don’t really enjoy socialising so much anyway so naturally my circle has dwindled down. I’m happy with just the company of my husband and close family these days, or just myself!