Distancing from cheating friend

[Morris125]

So I’ve just found out that one of my good friends is having an emotional affair with someone that she was best friends with. They were friends for years but this affair is recent. She confided in me that she has feelings for him and the line has been crossed over with the conversations and that she thinks it could turn physical soon. She has a partner of 10 years and 3 children with him and I’m just disgusted in her tbh. I wish I hadn’t been told about it. She seemed like she was always besotted with her partner but she says that this past year things just don’t seem to be good between them. Aibu to tell her to sort herself out or i don’t want to speak to her? I just don’t think I can talk to her knowing this secret.

It turns out she's not the person you thought she was so distance yourself from her. Imo

Is it really your place to judge her though, are you telling me you've never done anything morally wrong!?

Of course it’s perfectly ok for you to distance yourself from your friend. Ignore the previous poster. Not everyone is willing to be a participant in morally repugnant behaviour. Cheating is morally repugnant. Knowing about it and accepting of that behaviour is being complicit in morally repugnant behaviour. Not everyone is comfortable with that and rightfully so.

You’re now aware she is not the person you thought she was. What she is doing, you’re not comfortable with.

Do tell her what you think. You are entitled to have these thoughts. She told you what she is doing so, in a friendship, you’re perfectly entitled to tell her your thoughts in it.

Have a think and if you’re willing to be her friend if she ends it, let her know. If you’re willing to be her ear about working things out with her DP (even if that means ending that relationship, let her know.