Can't make friends

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This will sound pathetic, but I can't seem to make friends this will sound more of a ramble;

I have tried making friends with my daughters friends mums at daycare, invited their children who are my daughters friends, to daughters party a few weeks ago and heard nothing. One mum I even let her know that I have left an invite in childs cubby hole and she suggested a playdate as well so was hoping she would text me but nothing, one I asked if she and child were coming and she said they are busy. I have known most of these children and mums since DD was was 10 months but none seem to want to carry a relationship.
I try smiling more and making small talk as I'm quite shy but they just answer and quickly leave.

A local lady is a photographer who has done a few shoots for me I tried being friends with, I tried adding her on social media and she deleted my requested then made it so no one can add her, I know, its only social media but I hate the fact that I feel rejected.

I tried making friends with husbands friends wives and girlfriends but I can't get past small talk with them before they rush off to talk to their other friends at a party. One has a daughter the same age as mine so I suggested several times for a catch up and she always says yes but when I ask her when she's free she always seems busy too even invited them to DD party next week but she said her family were busy.

I just don't know what's wrong with me or what I could do!

I find it hard to make friends too OP. I'm socially quite awkward and find I never know what to say or say stupid things. You sound like you are really trying. I hope you make some nice friends soon x

I wouldn't say im "desperate", in a nutshell I probably have a what you call a "resting bitch face" and I think I look ok a less glamorous version of Kim Kardashian lol so perhaps people may think I'm stuck up! But I really do try, I ask people about themselves and their children but never get any questions back to me so it then becomes so awkward that they move onto someone else. I also have a speech impediment where I jumble up my words sometimes so that could be off putting perhaps. But I can understand how desperate I may sound in these posts.

Not pathetic at all, OP, and frankly I'm disgusted at how rude these people are. And how boring! How awful to brush off your party invitation. It makes me feel ashamed to be Australian. We're not all so socially inept, I promise.

Can I suggest you give these people a miss (apart from a brief, courteous nod when you meet) and find a more interesting crowd via a part-time job or volunteer work such as a bushcare group? You're much more likely to make friends there, or at least some nice acquaintances.

When your daughter starts school it will be easier; you can help at the school or go back to work, and you won't be so isolated. New parenthood can be lonely, especially when you're far from home.

@groovergirl Thank you I've lived in Australia for over 10 years so I know a lot of people but no one that is close to me. I'm apart of a local mums fb group but they all seem to know each other

We ALL have resting bitch face, dear! Mine makes me look like one of the dug-up ghouls in the "Thriller" music video. Only a massive facelift would fix me!

As I said above, if these utterly inept folk can't even carry on a simple conversation with you, don't bother any more. You've made a decent effort, and nothing has come back. Be polite but keep your distance, and focus on making acquaintances elsewhere. Dance class? Tennis club? Local art gallery members' club? Your DD's future primary school? Lots of groups would be delighted to have you. Meanwhile, you could put your spare time into something that interests you. What do you want to do for work when DD starts school?