Right here goes! As the title suggests...I need some perspective here.
We sold and moved here 5 years ago, it's a nice location, a good distance away from my slightly mentally draining family and it's a lovely, quiet area with kind neighbours. Which is a huge contrast to my upbringing, where we lived was major crime area, poverty and future prospects weren't amazing for many.
Living sightly away from family means I can choose when I need to see them and I can stay away as long as I feel. I feel I'm emotionally a stable person and generally happy.
Cue younger (spoilt) sibling gets wed, has a baby and decides to purchase a house on the next street (bursting my bubble of peace)
It's all lovely and smiley for now but I know for a fact I'll be the unofficial dinner lady/restaurant as neither cook and rely on the parents to spoon feed them. They are a self-centered couple, lack basic manners as in they'll come into your house and ask/look for food. Turn up unannounced and regularly and aren't interested in anything unless it's of any benefit to them.
Albu to feel suffocated? I will be setting boundaries and will lay down the law that I won't be available to cook extra etc etc and they should learnt to feed themselves. On the odd occasion it's nice to pop over with a dish but on a regular basis where they expect to be fed is unacceptable.
How do I diplomatically handle this? Without being rude and remaining in control? Aibu to want to sell up and move ?!!