To feel depressed about cancelling a holiday?

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It's cold and miserable. I was supposed to be going to a nice, hot country that has much lower cases of coronavirus than the UK. Wasn't worried so much about that as I was about being in an airport and on a plane so I ended up cancelling. I'm also doing IVF in December so I didn't want to risk jeopardising that.

I thought cancelling would make me feel less stressed but now I just feel depressed at missing out and doing something that probably would have been good for my mental health.

Not unreasonable at all, you had something to look forward to and now you don't. I'm guessing you're also anxious that the IVF will not go ahead as well, so a double blow.

Can you take a short break closer to home, or if you're off work do some holiday type things? Have a massage, have a nice meal out/ takeaway, book into a hotel with a good book and a bottle of wine.

Thanks, ChaChaCha2012. Yes, I should probably do something nice for myself instead of beating myself up over this decision!

You're not being unreasonable. I'd be just as miffed. I hope you manage to do something for you before the IVF starts in December. I'm sorry about your holiday.

Thank you! I thought I was coping OK with all the restrictions but this has sent me spiralling a little bit.

Not at all OP. We rescheduled from April to October so have now cancelled twice. It is depressing and you cant help but think "I should be sitting in X now".

We had a break in the Lakes instead which helped enormously, so I'd agree with a night away somewhere if it's possible. Change of scenery seems to reset the mind.

Never feel guilty about recognising your mental heath isn't where it should be. Thats a good thing.

It's all just horrible, isn't it ?

Everything that I normally do/look forward to is uncertain or off the agenda. It endsup just being the shit stuff left and no end on sight.

Take care of yourself

Not unreasonable at all. I cried a little bit when I had to cancel my family holiday of a lifetime in June.

Like previous PP we moved a break form April to October and then had to cancel completely. I know it's for the greater good but it is rubbish. YANBU

Thanks for being so lovely everyone! Before I cancelled I told myself it's just a few days away, I can cope without it! No biggie. But then sitting at home faced with the prospect of the next 6 months (at least) of staring at the same four walls, I was filled with regret.

Ijumpedtheshark, so sorry to hear that. Where was your holiday going to be?

Molehillfromamountain, why did you decide to cancel instead of rescheduling again?

We were hoping to be in Turkey this week. We held off on booking it and then Turkey was added to the quarantine list, quickly followed by a stricter lockdown in Glasgow.

DH isn't off for more than a weekend until the end of June/start of July 2021, which is looking bloody far away from here.

Good thing you didn't book, amusedbush (great user name by the way)! So crushing though. It's just so tough having to make any decisions at the moment with everything changing.

Thank you

Yep, it's just another thing to add to the This Is Shit pile. We've already cancelled a holiday this year (May), plus mine and DH's 30th birthday plans (May and April, respectively) and the graduation from my Masters degree (July). I had really hoped October would be okay but I guess that was naive!

I'm secretly pleased for this months cancellation, we were due to be in California and part of that was Disneyland, which is still closed there with no reopening date given yet.

We're hoping to rebook for Halloween next year which will coincide with our 25th Wedding anniversary and DH's 50th so there are plus points.

Oh yes! Would definitely not want to be in the US right now!

Big blue sea
Where were you going?
In Tenerife right now and it was heaven
Only 36 on the plane..all feels very safe and now no quarantine
Why don’t you rebook..
Goon you know you want too

Go-on even

Sounds dreamy. I was going to go to Greece. I think I might have missed the boat on that one. The temperature is dropping over there this week. Have a fab holiday!

Aaaaw I know, I booked & cancelled within 10 mins a few weeks back. I've been obsessively searching ever since for something else. The reviews are putting me off, I keep reading the terrible ones first. Plus I don't think that I really want to go to Spain or Greece.

Actually the numbers are pretty low in Greece. I think once you're over there it's probably fine as long as you social distance etc, it's just having to get on a plane that worries me especially now we're in the middle of second wave!

Guess we just need to wait for spring....

It's horrible that something that we used to use as an escape from real life is a source of such anxiety now.