AIBU to ask you to analyse my odd dream(and add your own for analysis if you want)?

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In all honesty, since I were young I have always found people talking about their dreams in any great depth a bit tedious and puerile, until recently. I've been having some really strange and disturbing ones. I have learned to wake myself up, too, to talk to myself in my dream and note 'this is a dream, it isn't real' or such.

I have just been for a nap after a very busy week and woken up shaking, so much so that when I went downstairs to make a cup of tea I was still shaking and dropped shit out of the cupboard everywhere .

So I am in this van (I don't and am scared to drive vans) and going down the motorway. I am terrified because this van has really odd controls, the gear stick is too far away for me to comfortably reach, I have to lean over to it and the steering is operated with a device a bit like a computer mouse. I also can't see much out of the windscreen, it is a tiny little window and I can only see just a tiny bit of the road. I can't see where I am going but eventually I come off the motorway, get out of the van with a pushchair, (nothing in it!) leave it to one side and try to find a loo. I can't find one and as I come out to collect my pushchair I see a woman kicking and throwing it. I ask her very nervously what she's doing and she just shouts at me but gives me it back. I then carry on going and another woman who's seen what happened follows me and asks if I am okay. I tell her my predicament with the van and she offers to come with me to help. She does, and another woman comes out of nowhere gets in too, only the first woman keeps coming onto me, sucking my nipples while I drive. She also throws the mouse away so I panic but manage to keep on driving. This whole scenario continues until I get home, and parking is so difficult outside my house (it was my actual house!) and I struggle and fail and have to drive around the block again, and eventually end up back on the motorway. It's at this point I wake!

What would you make of that? Why does my brain do this when I am trying to relax!

Add your own if you wish :)

Sounds like you need to book some refresher driving lessons.

Feeling out of control or like work (mouse/computer) is taking over your life? Don't know how to get where you want to be?

For a young woman to dream of a van denotes she will be prejudiced into error by her love for a certain class of people.

A man with a K-name is trying to cheat you out of your inheritance.

I’m going to take a punt to say you are scared of driving vans on motorways.

mitziK I am not a bad driver! :)

thearch that is interesting. I have had a van before-I am just more nervous with age (and I am late thirties so not 'young' but relatively, perhaps! But the class of people is so true. I have dated a lot of 'not rights'.

vampire you have me down to a T there, or did you guess off my username or read my latest thread! I am in a right pickle about work and no idea how to get something I want (although I am in the middle of applying for that job I mention in it).

marzipan I am scared of driving vans, period! As I've said I used to have one, and I'd love to be confident driving them but alas I am not.

I am still feeling a bit nervous because of the dream if I am honest-which makes no sense, it is just a dream!

you are feeling out of your depth, overwhelmed and you are not sure what issue to tackle first

The pram is the thing that nurtures your inner need for love and reassurance and people are messing with it - and I have no idea why the woman is trying to get off with you except that she is somehow sucking your emotional resilience and you are exhausted - maybe she represents the cause of your confusion - yourself?

also Mars is rising so watch you don't marry a Scotsman

ghosty definitely true.

I have a new partner who is very affectionate and I have noted I am more so with her,very clingy physically (I am gay, not sure if relevant to the woman trying to get off with me?) but the woman in the dream really wasn't my type and was very aggressive-as was my ex, she would always tell me to get off her or 'ration' affection.

Thanks, I'll tell that scotsman I was about to marry to beggar off

I didn't say you were! But if you are nervous about driving, which is the entire dream, it wouldn't hurt to feel more confident, which a few refreshers could give you
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I don’t know the supposed meanings but I sympathise!

I have suffered with weird, often frightening dreams and hallucinations since childhood.

Many a night I’ve woken up DH convinced I can see spiders on the walls.
Sometimes I wake in the night feeling like demons are under the bed.
I once absolutely terrified him in the early hours screaming that I could see a man at the end of the bed.

I often dream of terrifying things - demons, skeletons, falling, kidnap etc.

I’ll sound utterly batshit of course, but I bought myself a black tourmaline pendulum thing and when I sleep holding it I have no dreams whatsoever.
I’ve slept without it for two nights and each night had a weird dream.
So I’ll be taking it to bed with me again tonight!

I dreamt a new rule had been introduced where we could only procreate with someone from the same country. I was the only one pointing out this was insane and bad for heterogeneity.

I was reading a thread on dystopia, looking at the news and scrolling dating sites so I think it all got into my head which tried to combine it all together in my sleep

mitziK I know. I wondered if I came across as being a really bad one
Nvever a bad idea for many people I suppose. Parking outside here is a nightmare too, I've had to get my partner to park for me a couple of times.

mrsjunglelow thank you. I have had them worse since escaping an abusive relationship, which may be odd. There was a police marker on our house for her homicidal ideations and I was often scared. You don't sound batshit-it is reassuring that others feel the same. I havent' heard of those. Going to google.

vizlsapup Do you have a thing where you often have good ideas or know better ways of doing things, and nobody listens to you? empathy :)

Yep, others got there sooner but I'd say you feel out of control too.

Things are moving too quickly for you to cope with, you don't feel like have have the right tools to manage your situation (what you do have is either wrong (mouse) or out of reach (gearstick), you're blinkered (covid related/ can't see the bigger picture because it's taking over?) and you feel like more and more people are taking from you (work related?) and sucking you dry while you try to keep on going. Even your safe space doesn't feel safe (are you WFH?) so it's an endless cycle of stress.

Or, you know, the being scared of driving vans thing.

@vizlsapup

I dreamt a new rule had been introduced where we could only procreate with someone from the same country. I was the only one pointing out this was insane and bad for heterogeneity.

I was reading a thread on dystopia, looking at the news and scrolling dating sites so I think it all got into my head which tried to combine it all together in my sleep

To dream of a dystopia foretells unfortunate friendships for you, which will force you into lower classes than you are accustomed to move in. Unfortunate speculation will depress your seemingly substantial fortune. A woman of scarlet character may attempt to blackmail you.

I have dreams about once a week where I’m forced to drive a car, despite the fact that I don’t know how to drive in real life. Someone will reassure me that it’ll be fine and then I inevitably crash the bloody thing! I assume it’s my brain telling me that I feel like I’m not in control; seems so heavy handed of my subconscious.

Does anyone else have back to school dreams too?! I’m never naked or anything like that movie cliche usually for some reason my previous qualifications are declared invalid and I have to go back to school and redo them. So there I am in my high school uniform and towering over all the Year 7s yelling “I shouldn’t be here! I have a degree!”

I wouldn't over analyse the content. It's a classic anxiety/stress dream that's all.

I get them all the time, where you wake up with your heart racing and you can't shake the feeling for ages.

Does anyone else have back to school dreams too

Do you ever get the feeling of imposter syndrome blackparade? Can't say it's a dream I've had but that's the first thing that popped into my head!

If you dream of being back at school, it foretells that you will confer favours to one dishonorably inclined. Marriage rarely follows swiftly after such a dream.

breasted that is a brilliant synopsis!Very true. I am not working fromm home (police) but would love to, I really don't like where they haev us working due to covid so that could be true too, I am also doing far more hours than I want/need to be doing.

theblack that shows to me that although you're perfectly capabe of whatever you are doing, you sometimes feel you aren't or that you should somehow be better?

The car thing, yes lack of control or that you listen to others and/or do what they want, when you should listen to yourself.

There's a situation you feel completely unequipped to deal with (the van with controls you can't use) The random woman initially took a mother role and then there was an expectation of you providing nurture which you were uncomfortable with - this most likely represents a change in a relationship and a role reversal - has your mother needed you to care for her? Or maybe it's about your relationship with your partner. No idea about the pushchair but it's interesting that you felt unprepared for that too

DFAMA (what does that stand for?) Yes, I guess I have been in many situations like that so my brain should be processing it maybe. No, my Mother is a very savvvy business woman but my Dad-yes. Emotionally rather than physically or any other way but he was very depressed while I was young. And my ex partner was very needy but nasty. The new woman I am seeing is very caring and cossetting me a lot which I like, but am not quite comfortable with. Pushchair is odd I agree-I am childless although I have raised some kids of ex partners.

Do you tend to bring work home with you? Emotionally rather than physically, obviously! That would explain the inability to get into your safe space too, perhaps?

(Apparently I quite enjoy dream interpretation, who'd have thought! Great thread idea Op, hope you have a more restful and less van-filled night tonight )

Thanks breasted I'm always nervous about posting in AIBU! I really am not enjoying my job at all at the moment. Not sure if I bring it home as such but I'm definitely on a downerr/in a frenzy due to that.

I do find it quite interesting nowadays whether any of it is correct or based on anything at all. Different people's interpretations are fun to read.

The van represents your life. You’re in the driving seat but you’re feeling overwhelmed and carried along and not quite in control. There’s a decision that needs to be made that you are putting off.

There is someone or something in your life that you want to help. There is also someone in your life who’s a very negative influence but you have others who you know you can reach out to for help and support.

Classic anxiety dream. I have a wide range of these.

Here’s an embarrassing and very weird one: I’ve more than once dreamed I was friendly with Victoria Beckham. I’m trying to suck up to her by offering to help her and babysit etc...Vom. I have zero interest in VB and have, I think, reasonable self esteem. Mighty odd