To ask if you ever get used to this

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I have a ds9 from previous relationship who spends every other weekend with his dad, stemum and step siblings. This arrangement has been going on for many years and we all mostly get along well.

But I can't help but miss my little boy when he's away. My partner always says there's a notable dip in my mood and I get quite irritable. I enjoy the break and try to keep busy doing adult things or having a lie in or being lazy, but the truth is I end up bored and always feel a bit unfulfilled and incomplete. The weekends when he is home are full of fun and I make a lot more effort to get out and do things for his benefit.

Does this ever get better? I know it's the right thing and my son is happy but I just feel a bit sad about having to sacrifice so much time with him :-(

Unfortunately I don't think you'll get used to your DS being away. It's only normal, make sure you fill your time when he's not here well so you don't think about it as much. I know it's not the same but DH travels for work about once a month and I always feel lonely on a night, but make sure i'm very busy (normally with DC) so I can't think about it.

@MiddleClassMother Thanks, don't get me wrong I am grateful for the break sometimes but I genuinely feel happiest when he's home with me.

I don’t think you get used to it. I still have a cry sometimes when DS goes to his dad’s. I know he’s going to have a fab time, but I do miss him. DP is super kind. He tries to make our days with DS as much fun as possible, then puts a lot of thought and effort into making our “grown up” days really lovely. He’s there for me if I feel sad. It’s very tough but just take it easy and don’t feel bad for being sad.

I absolutely understand how you feel. But, I would suggest you try to enjoy your child free time with your partner for both your sakes.