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Finnyhaddock · 25/10/2020 16:41

One of our neighbours died a few weeks' ago. We weren't on speaking terms ... no issue it's just we all keep to ourselves pretty much.
Anyway I saw the partner of the dead guy and expressed our condolences.
On to the issue...I was making some soup and was going to take a big bowl and leave on the doorstep with a note when my OH said this was intrusive.
I thought it was a kind gesture.
Any thoughts?

OP posts:
coffeecow · 25/10/2020 16:42

I think it's nice.

pepsicolagirl · 25/10/2020 16:43

Kind.

Shoxfordian · 25/10/2020 16:43

I think its kind as well

ChaChaCha2012 · 25/10/2020 16:45

Do they like/ want soup? It's a kind thought, but it is a bit weird if you don't know them. I'd do it for one neighbour, because I know she likes soup, but not the other as they're effectively a stranger and I have no idea what foods they might like.

Quickncjust4this · 25/10/2020 16:49

It is kind, and I can't imagine it would be received as anything but kind.
If it was me though I would prefer a card, food would be more something close friends / neighbours could offer

Finnyhaddock · 25/10/2020 16:55

@Quickncjust4this

It is kind, and I can't imagine it would be received as anything but kind. If it was me though I would prefer a card, food would be more something close friends / neighbours could offer
I am a neighbour!
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Quickncjust4this · 25/10/2020 17:16

@Finnyhaddock but not a close one from what you've said in your post

FairyF1 · 25/10/2020 17:35

I think that’s really nice - I am sure even if they don’t like soup he would appreciate the effort!

raddledoldmisanthropist · 25/10/2020 18:09

Kind. Nobody ever knows what to do with grief and so people can often be standoffish. Practical gestures are a good idea.

KatieGGGG · 25/10/2020 18:13

It’s both kind and practical OP, self-care like making meals in the early days can be burdensome.

Intrusive would be frequently popping round, or taking round the soup and hanging about to strike up a chat. What you have described doing is perfect and I’d be very touched if it were me.

HaHaVeryBunny · 25/10/2020 18:25

Kind of you OP, it's letting them know you're thinking of them during an awful time. A lovely gesture and definitely not intrusive.

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