Two weeks ago I was blessed by beautiful twin girls. The birth was extremely traumatic and the babies were quite premature and are still in hospital. Thankfully they are tiny but healthy but needless to say it has been a traumatic and stressful time balancing their being in hospital, and the worries of becoming a parent with visiting them in hospital. After my C section I announced the birth to my friends, family and friendly colleagues on whatsapp before I passed out with exhaustion. When I woke up a colleague had announced the birth of my twins in a work related whatsapp group to over a hundred other people (some I don’t know, some I would have told myself) and got their weights wrong. I felt that it was well meaning, and probably just being excited for me, but ultimately unreasonable that she did that but also very trivial compared to the relief of the safe arrival of my girls. I was in too much pain and too tired to get that excited about it when whats done is done. Since then she has been in touch every day (more than my mum) asking questions which require a reply and constantly trying to engage me in a massive whatsapp conversation rather than just letting me rest. Sometimes I am too exhausted to look at my phone and if i ignore her she’ll message again. She also frequently updates me about moaning work politics in negative way which is really upsetting and stressing me out! The problem is I do like this person and don’t want to upset her or make things awkward. She has always been generous and gave me some lovely gifts before I went on maternity leave. But I don’t regard her as a close friend who I would confide in after a trauma. I also just need a bit of space, quiet and rest and these moments are precious. How do i tactfully get her to back off but preserve the relationship? AIBU when she probably just means well?