To ask what you would do?

[marmite79]

I’m extremely anxious about the virus. As you will probably tell by this post.

Live in a medium risk area but the actual area I live in has barely any cases. None of the schools have had cases! (Live semi rural).

I have plans with a relative this week but she’s travelled to a high risk area (she’s lives in similar area to us) this weekend mixing with multiple people and visiting pubs etc.

Would you cancel? Or am I being ott?? What if she had caught the virus and was incubating it or was asymptomatic?

There's no right or wrong way of dealing with this. You must do what makes you feel comfortable.

If you're going to get very anxious after seeing her then cancel.

It's no good putting on a brave face and meeting up with her and then spending the next couple of weeks worrying yourself into a state about it.

Of she’s been to a high risk area and behaving in a high risk way I wouldn’t meet her, no.

*If

I am extremely anxious about the virus. This is a relative of my partners. I’m taking strict precautions as I like to visit my grandma who’s recently widowed but I feel like I won’t be able to do that soon 😫😫 I’m not really socialising with anyone atm so I’m not sure what to do!

Just to add. I wouldn't meet up with her either.

Well, you must do whatever makes you feel comfortable. However, if she has indeed been to a Tier 3 area, she can’t have been going to loads of pubs because they’ll all be shut (unless she went to one for a meal).

I think I’ll leave it. I won’t say where shes gone to not give myself away but it’s an area that’s ‘high’ but likely go to ‘very high’ and she’s going for leisure and a ‘holiday’ rather than for essential reasons!

elaborate, what does "mixing with multiple": was it indoors at their homes for long periods, 25+ people or was it 2 people from 2 different homes met her at pub for lunch for an hour.

I'm not you OP. I'm not anxious so the WWYD part isn't helpful, but I'll throw in a tuppence about perspective if your friend saw 2 people at the pub rather than 25 people indoors overnight.

She used to live there so she’s meeting old friends at varying times due to 6 people rule. Presumably outside! But she’s staying in a house with others rather than a hotel! the rules confuse me (I know the rules for where I live).

I suppose it depends on how seriously she takes social distancing and sanitising etc.

Do you or your partner work outside your home? Do you have children who go to school?

If the answer is yes, then I don't see any particular extra risk here. Just continue your plans and keep your distance/sanitise etc.

What are your plans? If you can maintain social distancing you could minimise the risk.

I would postpone. Leave it a couple of weeks.

It would probably be fine to see her (taking precautions like standing 2m away if possible) but as you're feeling very anxious about it, it won't be enjoyable anyway.

I’m not working currently so my social interactions are low. I live rurally and don’t use public transport etc. We go out and about but only quiet places where social distancing is very easy and mainly outside. Partner is working in a very low risk to covid job! Dc of course go to school (primary age) but there’s been no cases in the area so our risk is low currently!

It’s half term and we were going to spend time with her due to her birthday! (Hence why she’s away on a jolly). Not sure what we were going to do exactly!

I’d cancel and I’m not actually scared of the virus.

You can’t visit your other family if you see her. That’s reason enough.

@marmite79

She used to live there so she’s meeting old friends at varying times due to 6 people rule. Presumably outside! But she’s staying in a house with others rather than a hotel! the rules confuse me (I know the rules for where I live).

The rules are pretty straightforward. If you put a post code of a higher tier area into the local restrictions checker it sets out what the rules are.

Your friend in a medium risk area is free to travel to a high risk area. She can go to a restaurant or pub whilst she is there, however her friends living in the higher risk area may not join her in pub or restaurant, the six person rule is superseded by local restrictions, they should not be mixing households anywhere indoors. They certainly should not be hosting anybody in their homes. They can only meet her outdoors.

@Florencex thank you. I have been reading about the rules but it’s easy to forget what they are - I know the rules well enough for where I am (on medium so not much change atm).

Can they meet whilst outside? I believe they eating at outside seating (insta stories). But I am pretty certain she is staying at a friends house.

This is all her choice or course. I am not judging her choices but I’m weighing up the potential risk to us.

I would “postpone” - by say a week (rather than “cancel”)