to ask what the final straw was to make you divorce

[RedLeicesterRedLeicester]

So fed up with my marriage.
Feel like he hates me and everything good ends up tainted. We seem to get through the week ok but every weekend is exhausting with the arguing.
Really want to try and get through it at the same time as wanting it all to be over. We have a small child and I want a happy family...
What made you decide to finally call it a day?

Why did you marry him in the first place?

It wasn’t always like this.
We’ve been together for 12 years, married for 8.
Only been like this for the last year or so

Could he be having an affair OP? The weekends being worse rings alarm bells for me.

@RedLeicesterRedLeicester

It wasn’t always like this. We’ve been together for 12 years, married for 8. Only been like this for the last year or so

Are the eleven good years worth fighting for? What are you arguing about? What has changed? If you have a small child, is this the normal "parenting is stressful" arguing? Could this be because Covid has messed with everyone's brains and we're all lockdown and have no release? What's making him behave how he's behaving? What have you done that might have contributed to this? (You don't need to tell me this but just think about all these things - and communicate with him).

@BangBux yes it’s a lot to do with the stress of parenting and also COVID is causing more stress. This has been going on since the beginning of lockdown....

@ThatScottishGirl of courses that’s possible but I don’t think so... he has a hobby (🚴🏼‍♂️🤣) that causes some weekend stress...

[quote RedLeicesterRedLeicester]@BangBux yes it’s a lot to do with the stress of parenting and also COVID is causing more stress. This has been going on since the beginning of lockdown....[/quote]
My advice (as someone who has no expertise beyond 1. watching my mum divorce three times and 2. never have been divorced myself) would be to act who you would act if you had just met him. Remember the giddy, excited feeling? Remember how you'd just not make a snippy comment? Remember how you'd let him go for that bike ride (or join him)? Remember how you'd suggest going out for a walk or to a cafe?

'D'H shouting at me at 1am so loudly that it woke the children up. And then blaming me for it.

blaming you for their crap behaviour is a top one, @Fantasisa