To feel so down.

[graceelli121]

It’s my birthday tomorrow and I’m all alone. My partner lost his job on Tuesday and has now gone staying with his family. DS is with my mum.

I don’t have any friends or family who know what’s going on.

I’ve rang the Samaritans tonight because I feel so so low. My partner doesn’t give a shit about me. And it’s starting to show. He says he’s let me down by losing his job and needs head space to relax. However he can go out with his friends but ignore me and DS.

I hate him and I hate my life.

I'm sorry, s as me I'm not sure I have much constructive to say. Even with nothing else going on, life is pretty shit atm. Why do you hate DP? For going to his mum's or for more than that?

You poor thing OP. Happy birthday for tomorrow! How come your DS is at your mum’s? Could you go over there tomorrow and visit them both?

I couldn’t read and run. Happy birthday OP. Is it possible to see your DS today? I’m so sorry your feeling this way OP. Xx

Your DP sounds like a twat. He runs home to mummy because of a job? Is he 12?

Will you be able to see your child for your birthday? Happy birthday 😊x

Happy birthday OP! What is stopping you going to see your DS and your mum today? I’m sorry you’re having a rough time.

Your dp should be with you on your birthday, maybe it's time to make some changes. Happy birthday, see this as the first day in a new year of your life, where things can improve.

Take this as an opportunity to work out what you want from life and make changes. You’re at rock bottom and can shape your life with time. What does your partner offer you? Is it enough? Do you want to be with him? How can you spend regular quality time and important celebrations with your son. What steps could you take to build friendships with existing or new people? Who can you talk to right now about your feelings? Your mum, dad, partner? A good step would be to phone your GP ASAP and tell them how low you feel. Write things down beforehand so you cover all the points you want to make

You can feel more alone in your head in a neglectful relationship than you would by being single. If your boyfriend makes you feel this way tell him to fuck off.

Happy birthday OP!

Could it be that your partner is just really ashamed of loosing his job? So ashamed he wants to hide from you!? I'm not excusing his behaviour (he's being a twat) but could it be that he's so down about it, he's out with his friends to get away from the stress of loosing his job?

As I've got older I'm less bothered about the big gestures from DH and more bothered about the day to day help. Things are tough so I try to value the small stuff more - that he does the bins, helps with the dc, etc etc. I need the day to day more than I need big gestures. How is your DP in that respect?

Happy birthday for tomorrow OP I hope that things get better for you

Happy birthday OP! I had a shit birthday this year, self isolating due to kid with a cough, and both my mum and DH who were in the house did little to mark it until I was in tears and they saw how shat on I felt. I think birthdays mean different things to different people.

But there is more going on for you - are you actively feeling suicidal or did you ring Samaritans for someone to talk to? Do you need more help today?

Happy Birthday OP

I’m sorry you feel so let down. Can you put your partner to the back of your mind for today, try to relax (and possibly see DC?) and take some time to decide your feelings towards your partner after today?

Happy birthday. I hope you enjoy it even if its doing nice small things like taking a nice long bath or going for a walk to get a treat or hot drink

I’d buy that he’s ashamed of his job if he wasn’t going doing stuff and paying for shit with his mates when he couldn’t even get me a card.

DS is with my mum as she picked him up from nursery on Thursday as I had a work emergency but she’s started showing some funny symptoms so awaiting a negative test.

What normally cheers you up? For me, it's chilling with a cup of tea and a funny movie or good book. I do feel you need to make some changes---lose the not-so-dear partner, firstly.

@graceelli121

I’d buy that he’s ashamed of his job if he wasn’t going doing stuff and paying for shit with his mates when he couldn’t even get me a card.

DS is with my mum as she picked him up from nursery on Thursday as I had a work emergency but she’s started showing some funny symptoms so awaiting a negative test.

I would go and get your son. If she has covid, the longer he is there the more likely she is to pass it on.