Would I be unreasonable to offer this expensive scooter to Daughters friend.

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Hi
Sorry for the two threads today but having a discussion with my 7 year old and was wondering if I was thinking too much in to this 🙈

Daughters grandparents have said they are upgrading daughters scooter for Xmas. She used her scooter more than anything and currently had a 3 wheeled maxi micro but would really like a 2 wheeled Scooter for the skate park.
Daughter knows about grandparents offer and I was going to sell her current scooter but she has asked if she can give it to her best friend.
Friend is a lovely girl who we have a lot of time for and is being raised along side her 2 siblings by her grandmother and in the past has mentioned how tough things are. Most of the children in DD class ride scooters to school and daughter seems very sure that her friend does not have one.
I however am worried about offending them and also about the 2 siblings ?
Do you think this might cause offence, is there another way to do it without offence.

It's a nice thing for your daughter to do and you should let her. Do not even mention that you think they're struggling. Just let her say "I'm getting a new scooter for Christmas so wondered if you wanted to have this one"

Absolutely I would offer it. I have received from and given to other families lots of things if they can be of use. The fact that your DDs friend may be in more need is not really here or there - you have something you no longer need and they might like it. They can always decline! I don’t think the siblings really matter - if they are younger they would get use of it after and if they are older then they would have grown out of it.

And how lovely of your DD to think of her friend.

See the siblings are all similar ages, year 2, year 3 and year 4 !!!
So they would all get use out of a scooter which is why I was worried about causing a conflict there. Thanks for your replies I will go down the route of wondering if you would get any use from this before I I get rid ?

That's really kind of you

What a thoughtful daughter you have raised. I sure her friend, and her siblings will be very thankful for the gesture.

Very thoughtful of your child.

We always passed things on to people.
It's great to be able to pass on an expensive item that is excellent condition to friends.

I actually accepted a perfect scooter from a friend years ago.

Delighted to be given it.

Recycling is the way to go.

If they are best friends (or close friend group) I dont think its wierd at all to just say to the mam 'DD grandparents got her a new scooter and DD would love a friend to ride with, would name be interested in going to the skate park after school' then just let them use the scooter if they dont have one and if they like it say they can keep it if they want so they can ride together more often.

If she is just an class friend that you think is poor and have took pity on then dont do it.

My issue though is that some parents dont like 'tat' (some people have bizaare idea of whats tat) and I have met parents that are put out by people just sending their 2nd hand stuff to them especially if its something 'big' (I have heard people moan some only do it to avoid going to the tip etc...) so I wouldnt outright give it I would judge weather they 'want' it first then offer it.

Of course! I would just say “DD has asked if she can offer it to X - can you use it?”

What a lovely daughter you have!

Yes, I have done this before with a text and photo saying-You haven’t got any use for this, have you? No worries if not, it can go to the charity shop.

That way, it gives them an out to say no thank you.

That's fine. I have given away a mini micro and won't think twice about giving away the maxi micro. If you haven't bought one, you wouldn't know how expensive they are and just think you've been given a well used scooter.

Tbh i give away dc stuff to friends and receive stuff all the time. I've never thought about the siblings. Otherwise nobody would ever give anything.

Lovely idea. I have ds2 old bike to a little lad up the school whose mom is struggling. His little face lit up when we gave it him and I often see him riding it around. His mom was so grateful. I just said to her just pass it on when your done.

Thankyou

They are only friends at school, I have spoken to nan a few times but we are not a close circle is that make sense ! I really would not have wanted to offend anyone, but your comments have made me feel better about it !