Feeling criticised

[StrawBerry781]

Hey all
Lying trying to get to sleep but finding my self teary. Me and OH have been together nearly 8 years and have a 7 month old son,
I bought a picture frame for my bedside table to put a picture of my son in (it’s a nice frame and picture) he noticed it tonight and said (can’t remember exactly what he said) but basically your ott you have too many pictures of him everywhere do you not think it’s abit much. I have 1 on bedside 3 professional ones on fireplace and three on the sideboard in the living room. Am I being ott? He also criticised me when my screen saver was me and my son saying it doesn’t look like you why do you that silly thing with your mouth. I thought it was a nice one, I blocked him on Instagram because he kept saying things about my pictures. He likes too many photos of girls that use filters lol he also made a tik tok account just to follow attractive girls 2/3 months after I gave birth made me feel like utter shit
I am a sensitive person and take everything to heart.
Yesterday he phoned to ask was I putting my son on the floor so he could crawl (he’s not ready at all to crawl) not sure if his parents asked that one as when he took son to there’s at the weekend and came back raising an eyebrow saying his jeans were to tight for his legs to bend to crawl (his jeans were baggy enough and had a good amount of stretch in them)
MIL went to give son some of her donut when he was 6 months we said both said no.
OH was eating a donut asked son if he wanted any and put it to his face i moved back slight he said oh yeh I forgot only your mum can feed you. His mum and dad laughed with his brother I was pissed off at that one as in laws feed him when I’m not there bare in mine OH has never made son a meal nor cooked him a meal .
Just feeling deflated like I get criticised and questioned all the time, I cry a lot more than I did before over it all, am I being over sensitive?
I come from a broken family and all Iv dreamed of is having my own to look after and love. Finding myself wondering what life would be like just me and my son
Thanks for any replies x

Op, do you live together? Does he live with his parents or separately? How old are you both?

This - ”I have 1 on bedside 3 professional ones on fireplace and three on the sideboard in the living room.”

Reads that these photos are dispersed around the house, not just one room, for all those saying it’s 6 in one room. Plus even if it was 6 in one room, why couldn’t the ‘issue’ (if there is one) have been handled more kindly. It’s hardly an altar to her child is it.

OP - He sounds almost jealous of the attention you are paying to your son.

His family sound rude but photos of your kids don't belong in your bedroom.

I'd feel v uncomfortable looking at our kids when DH and I were in bed together!

Theyre pricks

Why do people think they can dictate how many photos this poor lady has in her house. She is already upset and crying at nasty behaviour, why are you getting distracted by a blooming harmless photo? Pretty sure none of you put up with any of that shit in your own home.

The room I'm currently sitting in has 11 photos of my son and I'm not going to apologise for it. My house, my photos, my son. Your husband sounds like a dick with all the criticism and I'd just start to do the same to him and see how he feels. And doughnuts are not for babies.

It’s not you. It’s him.

And it doesn’t feel like he is criticising you all the time. He is openly or PA criticising you.

His family sound rude but photos of your kids don't belong in your bedroom

Some people really do have the most ridiculous opinions

You might be holding tight to your baby and not letting others in, but I can’t say I wouldn’t be the same when my partner is so dismissive and rude, and is making me feel worthless by commenting rudely about photos. Funny how most adults understand that being rude and mean doesn’t often make people change - if they mean ‘tummy time is good for babies his age’ then that’s all they need to say.

@FortunesFave

His family sound rude but photos of your kids don't belong in your bedroom.

I'd feel v uncomfortable looking at our kids when DH and I were in bed together!

OFGS!!

Nanny it's something I've heard from others too! As parents, you get very little personal space and time - the bedroom is one place which can be just for grown ups. There's nothing wrong with pictures of your kids but not staring down at you while you have sex! "OFGS" indeed!

Sounds like he's jealous that you love your son more than you love him.

I think you’re being over-sensitive about jeans and putting baby on floor to crawl, it’s much easier for them to crawl in something soft and stretchy like leggings. And you have to put them down so they learn.

Also the photos sound excessive, one per room fair enough but 6 in one room sounds overwhelming and cluttered (unless you have a massive house and pictures of the 3 of you). If all the photos are of you and your son I can see why his dad might feel left out!

YANBU about the doughnut and making his meals.