WIBU to contact the school when it’s actually my dc fault?

[PinkyU]

My lo is in primary school, she is autistic and has delays in some areas of development, she also has a physical disability that puts her at increased risk of injury.

She had a very severe injury 4 weeks ago and only returned to school this week (still injured but with accommodations to avoid further damage - supervision and not having to move around during busy times).

Today, at pick, up she was found sitting on the assault course apparatus in the playground during an “outdoor learning session” at the end of the day, having been bumped off by another pupil which has caused further, serious, damage to her ongoing injury.

Now, she shouldn’t have been on it, dd “knows” (to the best of her ability given her SN) that she should be being careful.

Would I be unreasonable to call the school tomorrow and have a, not very happy word with them about why dd wasn’t being more closely supervised so as not to have been on the equipment thus further injuring herself? Particularly when due to her SN she really can’t risk assess.

Or should I just accept that actually it was DD’s fault as she chose to go on the equipment, and I need to drill it further into her what is safe/not safe for her to do currently (though I’m not sure she’ll get it)?

How old is your DD? Does she have a dedicated adult?

How old is she? You probably need to do both. Maybe write your concerns in an email rather than calling though. I find that it's better to have things in writing. Hope your dd makes a speedy recovery.

Does she have an EHCP?

I think it’s unrealistic to expect constant supervision, however it’s not unreasonable to phone them for a polite chat and to raise your concerns

Maybe she needs more time off school to avoid aggravating the injury further? If she gets on the equipment there's not much staff can do, as it's unrealistic to expectrl them to be watching her all the time when there are 29+ other children in the class.

How old is your DD?
Does she have an EHCP?
Does she have full time 1to1 supervision mandated?

I think you need to speak to them and perhaps ask them to keep her off the equipment until her injury has healed? If she is supposed to be supervised then she shouldn’t have been able to either get on the equipment or be bumped off by another child.

Isn’t there a middle way? Not blaming your daughter, not blaming the school, but telling the school what has happened - exacerbation to existing injury - ensuring that it is adequately reported in their accident book, and then asking them how they will ensure she’s kept safe at playtimes in future.

You absolutely need to talk to them and put it in writing. No blame, it's not about that, but there needs to be a flag that your DD is not having her needs met with her current level of support.

@SilenceOfThePrams

Isn’t there a middle way? Not blaming your daughter, not blaming the school, but telling the school what has happened - exacerbation to existing injury - ensuring that it is adequately reported in their accident book, and then asking them how they will ensure she’s kept safe at playtimes in future.

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