Name changed for this, my brain is so foggy I can’t even describe it properly but we had an argument last night, husband started screaming at me for closing the door over as I left the room to go up to bed, meaning he couldn’t keep an eye on our pup who was sleeping in the kitchen. I, at pains to prove I had just absent mindedly closed it over as I left the room, and not because I was angry at him (which is what he was accusing me of) swore on my children’s lives that I had just not been thinking, he then started screaming at me “don’t you dare use their names in this scenario” then there was a bit more back and forth which I genuinely can’t remember, I was totally blindsided by it all, then he started to say (still shouting) he was exhausted and was just trying to watch the football, at which point I lost my temper and started shouting back that HE had called ME back and started an argument, I called him a fucking dick and as I stormed upstairs he was shouting names after me. I’m not proud of my response, and clearly we need counselling of some sort to rectify this as this is an example of a typical argument of ours, but lately I’ve started to wonder if it’s more than petty squabbles? I can’t fathom why anyone would choose to spend their time angry at their spouse so I really do try and resolve ASAP, although having said that he tried to be nice before work and I told him I was too angry so maybe it is just a 50/50 thing? My brain is so foggy with it all and I’m exhausted :( Is this is being equally arseholish or are his accusations that when I do something it’s because I’m angry and or having a go when I’m not just normal for couples who aren’t getting on?