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To want anxiety to go fuck itself.

8 replies

SnackRussell · 21/10/2020 01:34

Just that really.

I know this year is even fucking worse than ever before because the world we used to be able to escape to has turned to total shit and fuck knows when it’ll be back to normal again. Some say never. It’s always now I feel things gently starting to descend but this time I feel like someone has dropped kicked me out the side door of a plane.

If you suffer from anxiety how do you cope? How are you coping now? I’m not back on meds yet and I don’t want to go on them unless I get really bad because the side effects are fucking horrific and I end up having horrible crippling low self-esteem.

Currently can’t sleep because I’m worrying about loved ones dying in horrific circumstances.

I fucking hate it. But how do I tackle it?

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loopy09 · 21/10/2020 02:09

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way Flowers This year has been truly awful. Take a deep breath and count to ten.

I haven’t been coping with my anxiety all that well and it has spiralled out of control this year. The worry of being made redundant from a job that I absolutely love and losing my home that I’ve worked so hard for, as well as having a sick parent who needs an operation to regain some normality in life to then having to watch their health deteriorate whilst their operation which should’ve been at the end of March be cancelled with no say or promise of it happening. It’s all been too much and I’ve had panic attacks every day. No sleep, no appetite, constant panic. It’s taken its toll on me.

Went back to my GP who understood completely and put me on propranolol again and apart from insomnia being a side effect, I feel like myself again. I can breathe a little better, I can see clearer, I don’t feel like I’m suffocating any more.

You could always speak with your GP about your worries of going back on medication. Start with a low dosage if you can and see how you feel. If it’s too much then there’s always another route. Or try talking with a therapist, there’s always someone out there who can help and listen when you need it the most Flowers

Shxx · 21/10/2020 02:14

Stop swearing firstly and there isn't anything you can do aniexty comes and goes. When it happens to me I just force myself to go sleep then wake up feeling better.
Remember this...
You cannot change what has happened but you can deal with it and you will over come it. What was meant to be will be.

kerosene20 · 21/10/2020 02:18

I don’t know I’m afraid but I’m with you,op. Sending a virtual hug.

DotTheCaddy · 21/10/2020 07:54

Have you ever tried CBT?

I have it weekly alongside my medication and I find it really helpful.

SnackRussell · 22/10/2020 08:17

Hi, thank you for your replies.

I really can’t afford to get therapy but I have looked into it.

I think I am doing ok with it then all of a sudden it just engulfs me and I’m worrying about even the tiniest of things. Night time is always the worst.

This winter is going to be so challenging for so many people. Staying in control is going to be tough.

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Boxty · 22/10/2020 08:28

Anxiety can be really crippling and is particularly triggered by uncertainty. I think we can safely say we're living through extremely uncertain times so it's no surprise your anxiety has spiked recently. This Doctor is very good on anxiety and has a lot of self help strategies. www.drharrybarry.com/resources/ This website is also very good www.getselfhelp.co.uk/anxiety.htm.
At night time, rather than wrestling with the anxious thoughts see if it helps to recognize what you're doing (catastrophising). Try and keep your worries in the day, just focusing on what needs to be dealt with in this 24 hours. If that's not helping, bring it back to the next hour. Keeping as present as possible in now can help to reduce some of the anxiety. I hope you are feeling better soon x

mytimeonline · 22/10/2020 09:28

Stop swearing as pp said.
Sleep as much as possible at night which keeps you in a better frame of mind, when I am anxious I get very tired
Limit media
Limit people's bs, boundaries
Tackle what you can manage daily leave the rest,, housework etc
Light walk daily if you have the time and find a app to help like Mentemia
Small steps to make your day as pleasant as possible from a chat to a friend to a nice lunch.
Nice things to lift your mood like your favourite music
Someone told me to deal with today get through that then focus on the next.

LabiaMinoraPissusFlapus · 22/10/2020 09:32

Maybe try yoga or meditation. All that matters is the present. If you are ok now, that is all that matters. It is a skill to be able to pull your mind back to the present moment when worrying about what happened yesterday or might happen tomorrow.

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