Sucking up or doing the right thing?

[tiredtimes100]

She hurt me (emotionally) when I was most vulnerable and now she's had a miscarriage. Am I supposed to check up on her and be there for her even though things aren't great with us? I never got an apology and the issue was never addressed. What would you do?

Who is she to you?

To be honest, I would contact her, that's just me though and thata going off the limited information you've given. Not sure who she is to you, how close you are to her etc though. Plus I dont know what she did to you. So going off your post I would contact her because she must be going through hell. But like I said thats just me and going off zero info x

@combatbarbie

Who is she to you?

Shes a close relative

You are not meant to do anything but what you feel you would like to do - how you feel is just that.

If you don't, you may never get the relationship back. But, is it worth getting back? Was what she did a one off? How bad was what she did/why you were vulnerable?

Did you try to address it and she dismissed you? You can say how sorry you are to hear of her loss, without compromising yourself.

I would just send a message: "I am so sorry to hear of your loss, thinking of you xx", because even if you're not speaking now, the relationship may well be repaired in the future and you will feel terrible that you didn't reach out to her at such an awful time.

Do you think she would contact you if the circumstances were reversed?