In law challenges

[Joely221]

My in laws are a funny bunch. Every Christmas and Birthday I swear they deliberately give me a terrible present, but whatever. However my sons birthday (from another relationship) last year got less money than their other blood grandchildren and the same happened this year. It’s been two years on a trot so I feel I am not jumping to the wrong conclusion but not sure how to deal with it as right now I want to throw a fit.

Rightly or wrongly, they clearly don't see your son as their grandchild like the others are and so treat him differently.

Do you mean you have first DC who got £10 then another D c ( the in laws blood grandchild ) who was given £20?
I would say to my partner that it's not on and I would sit down and ask in laws to give both children the same. If that means second child gets reduced amount then so be it. Make a point of saying you won't have your children treated differently.

@123rd

Do you mean you have first DC who got £10 then another D c ( the in laws blood grandchild ) who was given £20? I would say to my partner that it's not on and I would sit down and ask in laws to give both children the same. If that means second child gets reduced amount then so be it. Make a point of saying you won't have your children treated differently.

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He’s not their grandchild so I can’t see the issue

You've got another thread going, I think?

Does that child's grandparents give the other children things on their birthdays?

I think this is horrible OP. I would feel the same as you. I don’t see what can be done about it, although I would struggle to keep my mouth shut about it!

He's not their grandchild presumably he has grandparents on his fathers side who buy for him? Do they also buy for the other kids? Doubt it? It's presumptuous and entitled when you deliberately bring together a blended family to expect the wider family to treat everyone the same

I don’t think it’s horrible, he presumably has grandparents from his biological dad, who could also be giving him something. He effectively has additional this way.

(Or do you expect his dads parents to give your other children something? - which I doubt)

I too have two sons from different relationships. While it would be completely shitty if two children whoever they were, were standing next to each other were not treated the same it’s perfectly acceptable for grandparents to be generous to their actual grandchildren. Your eldest son is not their grandchild yet they still acknowledge his birthday.
In your house your children need to be treated the same by you and your DH but others aren’t obliged to do the same.
I really hope you aren’t encouraging your eldest to call them Granny and Grandpa because they’re not.
If you are raging now imagine how I felt when the youngest inherited quite a wedge while the eldest got zilch!