I have to be a bit envoius of the attention my dd shows my dh

[madame]

we have just got back from a week in France and my dd could not get enough of my dh. She is just 2 and doesn't see him much at all Monday to Friday and so it is of course lovely for her to spend more time with him, but she didn;t want to know me at all......I just felt like the skivvy in the background making everything run smoothly, cook all her meals, tidy up after her.

Will it always be like this, dd always being a daddys girl, how can you help keep a balance. I feel so silly as I write this but I do feel quite upset about it..

he is the fun exciting novelty - you are the day to day security and comfort.

don;t feel silly ! i agree with BBBBEee though. familiarity breeds contempt and all that.. both my DCs are like taht with DH, as they don;t see a lot of him, and he often comes home with pressies and things for them, so they are delirious with excitement when he walks through the door.

but when they have a bumped head or feel poorly, they ask for mummeeeeeeeee

but how do you react, do I ignore her when she doesn't want me to read to her or be part of the play?

ah, I have this sometimes. I reckon your best bet is to make the most of it, and try to read a good book or something. x

so I just have to become thicker skinned and not take it so personally. I think the problem with me is that I was very much a daddys girl and gave my mum a hard time. She died 4 years ago now from cancer and I do have regrets about how I must have made her feel at times. I want a good relationship with my daughter

good way of looking at beenleigh, take my foot off the pedal...

dont worry, this phase will soon passs, nxt she will be trying to emulate u to win her fathers afftection... then she will hate him....

(see Freud!)

You will have a lovely relationship with your daughter (sorry to hear about your mum).
But also see your dd's lovely relationship with her father as a good thing too and will make them both happy.
Ds is very close to dh and sometimes wants time with him alone.
Tbh I appreciate it and use it to have a rest.

Perhaps find something else relaxing to do away from them.
I'm sure your dd would soon wonder where you are and call out for mummy.

Madame, I have 3 DDs, youngest is 7, next is 10, and the eldest is 13. I ahve been through what you are describing, infact still am, but and I do say but, they gradually change to you! Honest! DD who is now 13, who at one point really didnt want anything to do with me when DH was around, has gone completely the opposite way. She and DH now clash big time. She comes to me with any problems or if she needs anything. I am just sitting now waiting for the other two to make the transition. (Its a lot easier when they are older, and great fun going out shopping with them!)

Please don't worry, it is probably that she does not see DH that much Mon - Fri and is enjoying the double dose, but honestly your time will come.

thank you everyone, these encouraging words are lovely.