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I've got no friends

10 replies

Billynomates33 · 20/10/2020 20:05

Just feeling sorry for myself really. Having a tough few weeks with work, kids, really bad luck, tried to reach out to people to vent and haven't heard anything back from anyone. Normally I'm very upbeat so I'm not dragging anyone down and they're fed up of me. Literally the first negative message I've sent in a very long time.

I'm always there for other people when they need a boost, they don't even have to ask. Guess it's good to know where I stand.

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CathTurnbull · 20/10/2020 20:22

I only had one friend and they dumped me in March at the beginn8ng of lockdown 😬

MinistryOfTragic · 20/10/2020 20:26

I'm sorry to hear that, people can be really disappointing. We're here if you need to vent about life at the moment, things are tough. 💐

SerenityFlowers · 20/10/2020 20:26

That's pretty hurtful. I think some people are so caught up in their own issues at the moment, that they have limited emotional energy to maintain their friendships as they normally would. Like you say though, it certainly makes you look at the friendship in a different light.

D4rwin · 20/10/2020 20:27

Brew they may be frazzled too (I hope so for you). I realise you need someone now though. Sorry it is rough for you

underneaththeash · 20/10/2020 20:27

What did you say in your message OP? Maybe you were too negative.

Iftheclouds · 20/10/2020 20:29

Have you looked into bumble they have a friends app as well a dating bit.

Honeyandapple · 20/10/2020 20:30

A lot of people are having a really rough time of it at the moment. Could it be that they are also in a shit place and can't take any more weight of problems. Not saying that makes it ok, and I'm sorry you're not feeling great.

I know the last few months I have been a bit of a recluse and felt unable to call friends. I have text messages from 6 weeks ago I still need to respond to. But i'm just not feeling available at the moment, sometimes I just need to revert in to my own space to get through challenging times.

Billynomates33 · 20/10/2020 20:35

I just laid out everything that had gone wrong but it was jokey not all woe is me. If I had received my message I'd have though oh wow Billy has had an extra tough few weeks, she never normally complains so must be really feeling down. Which I am.
It's just sad, I know life is harder than ever for everyone but these are 3 twenty year friend ships and one 8 year one. I just feel fundamently unliked on top of everything else. It would be childish to delete their numbers but I'm tempted after a day of radio silence.

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AnnaSW1 · 20/10/2020 20:42

Maybe they just read it as a joke if it was jokey.?

WhittlingWinnie · 21/10/2020 00:11

Maybe you come across so strong as you rarely rely on them and they don't realise the full extent of how much you're struggling at the moment.
I can totally relate with you though and I hope you hear back from at least one of them soon.

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