DD using my work space...

[Beetie1]

... when hers looks like this?

DD is 13 and has a desk in her room but it is just covered in crap and is never used as a desk. It's more of a glorified shelf. She will however then insist on using the desk in my room! The fact she has her own desk has been explained to her but I still get pouted and huffed at when I tell her she can't use the room (not all the time but I'm not being kicked out of my own bedroom).

So WIBU to bag up the stuff that's on her desk and remove her desk entirely? I think I'd hide it in the shed temporarily to make a point. I could be verging on the petty but it's really getting under my skin. The rest of her room is ok(ish) it's just her desk that is left in this state.

why don't you just help her to organise her desk? Lots of kids this age need help with that...

Don’t nag, just take her in her own room, point out there’s a desk under all the mess and tell her sh3 is not to use yours anymore. That would drive me nuts when I was wfh.

Goodness, you’re her mother. Why are you asking a bunch of people on here what to do. Get her to watch Marie Kondo on Netflex then apply the principles to clearing out her room.

I might be concentrating on the wrong thing here but I can’t believe she’s got paper money just lying around! I’d tidy it up and take that as my tip if that’s how much regard she has for money, not to mention her own space.