To be completely confused with what the hell my body is doing?!

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Hi all,

A bit of background: we have been trying to conceive our first baby for 6 months now.

Last month I fell pregnant, but sadly I had a chemical pregnancy (or what I thought was a chemical) and so when I got my bleed / period, I decided to stop testing a so assumed that the pregnancy had ended 👼😔

I am now cycle day 23 of the following month, have been tracking ovulation with OPK's and temping but had absolutely NO indication of ovulation being near, or having happened yet.

I'm getting so frustrated with myself now. I know I shouldn't put pressure on myself so I've been fairly relaxed about everything this cycle - the last cycle & loss took a huge toll on me and was absolutely heartbreaking 💔

I am wondering if maybe I'm just not ovulating this month? Who knows.

I feel like it's really beginning to get me down. My glimmer of hope last month was ripped away from me and I feel so low 😔

Has anybody been through similar? Is there any light at the end of this tunnel?!

I forgot to add - I had a random and very light bleed around 5 days ago, but really not very much at all, saw it on the toilet paper. 🤷‍♀️ not sure what it could be.

Hard to know. Are you sure that you miscarried? Was it a heavy bleed? Have you continued to test?

Sorry fired that out whilst cooking dinner - I'm sorry you (possibly) had a miscarriage

Some women do bleed early on and carry on their pregnancy. I'd book a blood test to check HCG levels to ensure you're not still pregnant.

If it was a chemical there's a chance your body is processing that and not ovulating yet / will at all this month

When I had a chemical pregnancy my ovulation was delayed by two weeks. So I had a six week cycle instead of four. Keep using the opks!

@firesong that's okay, thanks so much for replying 💓

I'm pretty sure it was - the bleed was exceptionally heavy and cramps were excruciating 😔 much more so than a usual cycle for me.

Xx

@1940s thank you. I will have to see if I can get a doctors appointment and see what they advise. It's so hard to know what is going on at the moment, my body seems to be all over the place x x

Sorry to hear you are struggling. I had a CP, got pregnant following month after a bit of a weird period, then sadly miscarried at 12 weeks, then got pg about 2 months after that.

However I would really caution against getting pregnant until you have healed emotionally. I didn't wait, and often wonder if I hadn't healed physically / hormonally either. My DC is ok and arrived safely, but does have some developmental and emotional issues and I would bet money it is down to me being in a terrible state during pregnancy as was terrified I would lose baby throughout and so so stressed.

I guess I'm saying I know how desperate you must feel but rushing isn't always the best answer x

So sorry to hear you have been through this again. It must be so heartbreaking and disappointing as each month goes by. One of my friends was having problems and has recently conceived and the thing that helped was eating liver (ox or lamb's) is the best. Small amounts of course. It doesn't taste nice, but cut it into tiny strips and fry it with onions. Vitamins and minerals will help and liver is full of them. The only major one it's lacking is vitamin D so supplement that too.

@snapple21 so sorry that you've been through the same - it's heart wrenching. I will keep going with the OPK's! Thank you ☺️

You can get small amounts (maybe half a pound to fry over 2-3 days) from the butchers or else Tesco (and likely other big supermarkets) sell it in bigger packs, some of which you may need to throw away because you shouldn't eat huge amounts of it.

@nanbread oh gosh I'm so sorry that you've been through the same. I can't even begin to imagine the pain you have felt 😔 but so glad your lovely little one is here and safe!

I also wonder how the grief and loss, and then worry going forward could potentially effect a new pregnancy. I am taking things slowly now, not rushing 💓 just so confused as to what my body is doing, I guess. Xx

@AquarianSquirrel thank you so much for replying!

I will definitely give that a go - just want my body to return to some state of normality.. it's so hard not knowing what is going on with your cycles. Xx

I did take a test yesterday morning, it's a FRER using FMU.
Not sure that I can see anything.. feel free to take a look.

I kind of feel like I can see a faint line.. I'm wondering if perhaps it's left over hormone? 🤷‍♀️

We haven't DTD often this month due to each others work schedules. We DTD on 15th and Sunday of this month so wayyy to early to have conceived, implanted and gotten a result.

Any guidance would be great 😌

I’m really sorry. It took me and my husband 6 months to conceive our daughter and I had what I thought was a chemical pregnancy during that time. It happened.

As a side note, it took us 20 months to fall pregnant with our second where I was under the doctor and going through blood tests to check ovulation levels which turned out to be low or non existent. However, the last time I had my ovulation levels checked the doctor told me a few months ago that my levels were 15 and needed to be 30 for conception... well I’m sitting here 14 weeks pregnant so I don’t know what made me so lucky 🙅🏽‍♀️ but there IS a light at the end of the road.

Good luck!

@Generalblah I'm so sorry that you've been through a chemical, too. It's so hard. My heart goes out to you and your DP 💐

But congratulations on your new and exciting pregnancy! What a miracle given the advice you had from the doctors. Miracle little baby! 🥰😌

Thank you for your support and confidence boost, I really needed that 😇🥰