to miss my privacy?

[mobilerain]

I work from home on a not quite fulltime basis. Since the start of lockdown my dh has been home 24/7. We get on well and have a good marriage but I do miss my privacy to journal long hand. This is an important way for me to work though my emotions and especially at this time I really need it but don't feel I can when he is at home. He often pops in to see what I'm up to as he's needing a break from work. I've tried doing it on my laptop but I prefer to do it long hand and thats harder to hide. I used to just write it all out, read it over and rip it up. I just really miss my privacy to do that.

Could you go to a cafe or a park to do it? Could you do it in the bath and lock the bathroom door? Could you say to him that you'd just like some alone time?

I'm not sure why you can't still do it? Just tell him you need some time to yourself, would he mind?

Why cant you write in journal. Surely husband should respect your privacy and let you write away. If he pops in, you just close it and carry on later. Or set aside an hour a day for a 'meeting' and ask him not to interrupt you.

Tell him what you need. If you have a good marriage surely you can communicate that to him and he’ll understand perfectly? If I close a door, my H knows I want privacy. I don’t even have to tell him that. I’m a writer-downer, too.

Do you have more than one room in your house? Be in separate rooms for an hour.

Can you not tell him to not disturb you for X amount of time and shut the door?

I guess I just want the privacy to do it and not have to ask or explain, I'm sure he would understand I'm going to get a do not disturb for the bedroom door but either way it won't be the same. I just would love the hosue to myself again for an afternoon every week!

@mobilerain - I understand completely. My DH is home all the time and I don't like it at all. I am so used to having the house to myself and doing what I want, when I want! If I say I am going out, he asks when I will be back! Could you go out in the car to do your writing? I go for a drive when I can't stand being in the house a moment longer.

@MagicSummer Thanks for understanding, I'll figure something out, going out for a walk alone is lovely!