Friend who never wants to text

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A “friend” of mine never wants to text unless it’s to meet up. Obviously at present that is rare!
She however is constantly on Facebook posting updates and links to her 2 children’s personal Instagram accounts which have pics posted every day. If I like her pics she likes my like.
She never wants to have casual chat, she does make an effort with things like birthdays or occasions but I’m just so confused as every other friend will text general life updates even pre covid.
I stopped trying and she hasn’t text for 3 months. She will randomly text to meet up probably for Christmas but I find it SO STRANGE and don’t understand! I would think we were close but maybe we are not.

I also don’t think it’s just me and unsure how others don’t find is strange or maybe they try more but I stopped as was just blanking leaving me on “read”

A lot of other friendships for me have moved mostly to text even pre covid due to restrictions of having 3 children meeting up on the odd chance we can

Messaging people endlessly is boring.

I message if there's something to say, I make smalltalk in person. I don't think I'm unusual.

She makes an effort to meet up when she can, and for your special occasions, texting clearly isn't her thing.

This sounds like me - depression and social anxiety mean that I can't have a jolly text conversation at the moment. I don't post a lot on social media but when I do it's very upbeat (kids having a good week at school/pet doing something cute type posts). That's all very remote and non-threatening but a friend expecting details and responses is too much atm.
Having said that she may just not want to have that kind of contact with you.
I guess what I would appreciate is a "Hope you're okay, give me a text/call if you need anything" kind of message.
It let's her know you're there, leaves the ball in her court and stops you wasting precious energy.
That's just me though, I'm sure others will have other points of view and one of them may strike a chord.

People have massively different thresholds for this sort of thing.

My boyfriend texts and messages people at the drop of a hat about anything and has tons of whatsapp groups on the go. My best friend loathes any kind of electronic communication and will only respond to direct requests or in relation to arrangements. I find both to be extreme and am occasionally irritated by both but as long as they communicate with me about what matters I have to live with it.

Everyone finds their own comfort levels with this and as long as its not rude or not causing inconvenience there's not much point trying to change it -- you will just create resentment.

I’m a bit like this. I’d rather meet up and catch up rather than sit texting all the time. I’m not good at small talk on a text.

I'm that person unfortunately don't mind a little chit chat but prefer to just text and arrange to meet up.

If I didn’t do messaging of friends I would miss out on so much though? Realistically how often can you meet for girl time when family life takes over.

Why is it strange? Texting is to convey information. If you want a conversation, just phone her!

I agree with @katy1213. Just call her.

It's not strange at all. Lots of people find it hard to mentally wake up to focus on texts, where as posting to social media is a one way communication which invites response but of a kind which doesn't have to be immediate.

I have cut down on how many long text chats I have, since the school went back. I'm a different kind of busy. But also, while it's enjoyable to chat with my friends, it used up a lot of my spoons.

I think it’s much more meaningful that she tries to arrange to see you, and remembers special occasions, that’s real friendship! Not the casual whatsapp conversations you can have them with anybody. She sounds like a good friend, don’t judge her harshly because she happens to rate quality over quantity.