Oh god it's happened - I'm having a midlife crisis!

[WorryBadger]

Am I mental or just menopausal?

What with COVID and other stuff, life has been through a few major changes recently, almost all for the better.

However, I find myself daydreaming about what being young and free would be like, and what I could do, and fancying completely unsuitable young men, and wanting to dress up nice but fearing I'll look like a desperate old prozzie or something.

My job is good, I am healthy, I am happily married with a child, so why do I obsess about random men and feel so sad about getting older? I've never been bothered about my age (46 now), but it's hit me in the past couple of weeks like a train.

YABU: woman up, we all get older, count yourself lucky
YANBU: I get you, it's tough

oh goodness, it is the hormones having one last fling at trying to get you pregnant. mine hit a little earlier bit has worn off now. helps that I have teens/tweens and goodness it makes you so unbroody.

Well I wouldn’t suggest you go flirting with other men while you’re married, but why the hell shouldn’t you dress up nice?

Yeah. I’m constantly watching Dr Mike videos and trying to do a cut crease.

Sad times. I’m with you OP

Are you having any other symptoms of peri-menopause? It can be hard to recognise them because for some they sneak up slowly. Having muddled, "kooky" thoughts is also very common.

I nearly bought a Dyson Airwrap the other day. I think that might be my equivalent to buying a sports car . . .

@RedPandaFluff

I nearly bought a Dyson Airwrap the other day. I think that might be my equivalent to buying a sports car . . .

No, not even close to buying your sports car in your 50s! I loved it, my pupils couldn't believe what they saw when I drove it to work, it did my cred such a lot of good.

I have the same daydreams, and I'm pretty sure it's because I've just had my first baby!

Desperate old prozzie had me cracking up!

I'm 44, I hear you. I don't even look that bad in a gimp mask.

Oh.

wanting to dress up nice but fearing I'll look like a desperate old prozzie or something.

Tea came out my nose

Me too! Hilarious! Although unfortunately I know what you mean!!!

It's the hormones. I'm 39, happily married, 3 kids (youngest in primary school, so it's not as if I've recently given birth) recently got back into a proper job after years of rather patchy self employment, and yet instead of feeling secure in myself and content with my lot, I feel restless, more worried than ever about what people think of me and desperate to impress... I frequently fantasise about being young, free and single and find myself dreaming about having amazing sex with completely unsuitable younger men.

Are you me OP?!

I'm 46 and could have written your post (but I'm not married). I think it's all a bit of a mixture: midlife crisis & peri menopausal.

Sometimes I embrace it all. Sometimes I think 'fuck it!' and want to be/act 25 again. I never know how i'm going to feel from one day to the next!

Oh Lordy. 43 and right there with you. Currently obsessing about Lucifer (tv series, not actual prince of darkness). Restless in my job. Daydreams about running away. I quite like it though - as long as it all stays in my head, that is!

Ditto op, I’m 44. Also feel the desperate old prozzie squinting back at me in the mirror 😬 I feel like I’ve got worm tongue in my ear whispering all sorts of things that would be “a good idea” such as “get another motorbike, it doesn’t matter that you haven’t ridden for 20 years it’ll be fine”, “ooh you’d look great in those faux leather skin tight trousers” and on it goes.....

yanbu and you're definitely not alone! Just yesterday I was looking at my son's (gorgeous) osteo and getting ridiculous ideas - classic mid cycle don't waste those eggs hormonal urge! Everything at home is super stressful so running away us Massively appealing.

Oh thank god, it's not just me!

I'm on HRT, going grey and overweight. Boys. Come to the yard.

I'd like to think I'm a cougar, but it's just coming off as feral cat at the moment. Also obsessed with Lucifer - had to stop watching it for a while as it was making me so sad, wishing I had someone THAT HOT lusting passionately for me. My husband is a handsome man and I've never really fancied anyone else till now, is it just my rapidly wizening eggs switching from demurely humming, "Some day my prince will come" to drunkenly grabbing the mike with a tit hanging out and belting, "LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX BAY-BEE"?

I'm so miserable with yearning for something, but I don't know what, and I also find it funny that I'm miserable because it's such a cliche.

Maybe a sports car would be a good substitute. I mean, I can't afford one but when did that stop middle-aged men having their crises?

Oh lordy, I recently bought some black skin-tight faux leather trousers too.

Those type of thoughts just get u into trouble, the short term thrill won't last long. just creates a whole heap of heart ache. The dressing up nice bit fine though.

I got to 45 and began to think random things like 'I cant get old without having sex in the woods'
I'm nearly 50 now and the mad sex drive hasn't abated.