AIBU to give the correct details for contact tracing?

[Justlovingthis]

I’ve now fallen out with a good friend over this.
My adult child (20) has COVID and got symptoms the day after this friend was over and the friend stood chatting fairly close to them.
After their positive test they got contacted by test and trace to see who’s they’d had close contact with etc. They gave them my friends details.
The friend is now furious with us saying we shouldn’t have said! As they now have to rearrange their diary and lost work.
There wasn’t an ounce of concern for my child (or for me for that matter and I’m in what was the vulnerable group).
Surely we’re not being unreasonable?
Ps the username is sarcastic!

I would have done exactly the same but I expect plenty of people will be along to tell you you shouldn't have.

I wouldn't give out details to the tracers, especially now they can release those details to the police.

I'd give my contacts a heads up on the quiet.

It's the friend's fault if she/he hadn't been close to your son then you wouldn't have needed to report them at all. Keeping away from people is a huge factor in reducing transmission, unless they were somehow forced to be near your son they are the unreasonable one

@lughnasadh

I wouldn't give out details to the tracers, especially now they can release those details to the police.

I'd give my contacts a heads up on the quiet.

You really wouldn’t say? Surely if they’ve been told to self isolate they’re possibly entitled to ssp or the £500 one off payment for low earnings. I know it’s not perfect and I’ve also lost earnings, aware it’s my household is in though. Since they only wanted those you’d seen for 2 days before I’ve mentioned to those that saw us before that, just to watch out. My child’s work are also cross with them as lots they work closely with have also got to be at home.

You did the right thing. The friend is a dick

@satnighttakeaway

It's the friend's fault if she/he hadn't been close to your son then you wouldn't have needed to report them at all. Keeping away from people is a huge factor in reducing transmission, unless they were somehow forced to be near your son they are the unreasonable one

No I absolutely didn’t force them. I’ve been really trying to keep my distance but also my sanity, hence my friend was over. They even texted me asking if it was ok to come over.

A heads up on the quiet is useless. I can't be off work unless I have proof, same with the £500 covid payment for low income

Sounds very much like the friend is furious because they have no intention of self isolating if required.

I agree with you.

@pigsDOfly

Sounds very much like the friend is furious because they have no intention of self isolating if required.

And I think that’s exactly it. Since contact trace have contacted them and pointed out the instant £1000 fine if caught for leaving the house for ANY Reason other than having a test they can’t pretend they didn’t know. I also wonder if she even declares her income.

Thank you to those that agree without me and have done the same. I’m quite upset over this. It’s crap enough that my dc has had a positive test and is ill. They’re not a symptom free case.
Thank you also for the other points of view.

Agree WITH me

I'd do it. I wouldn't even think twice. And if my friends objected it would make me look at them in a new light to be honest. They want them to effectively lie for them because they somehow think the rules don't apply to them. And showing no concern for you or at least asking if your son is feeling ok is also shit

Given what's at stake both in hiding and in providing the details, it is really tough. Realistically, if your son was chatting to your friend in passing for less than 15 minutes, and was otherwise not in the room, they're extremely unlikely to have got it. What I would hope ij the same situation is that the friend would be told by you and would self isolate on their own. But people just can't afford to lose work if they don't work from home. It's all very well for me, I happily provide my details to everyone, because if I had to self isolate it would make fuck all difference. But she shouldn't be arsy about the fact you're simply doing what you're told.

YANBU any of my friends wouldn't mind.

Anything else is just people being special and not giving a fuck about others.

Of course you did the right thing.

Idiots refusing to give details is just one of many reasons why track and trace will never work.

@lughnasadh

I wouldn't give out details to the tracers, especially now they can release those details to the police.

I'd give my contacts a heads up on the quiet.

and this is how nowadays we've the numbers we've

btw t&t doesnt share data with police (tho Imo I wish It did maybe some people then would think about self isolating twice as it's the only way we follow the rules)
www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-54599320

Yes I absolutely think it should be shared and I really am seeing certain friends in different lights according to how they feel over this and how much distancing they’re doing.
Very aware that my dc has caught this but probably through their face to face work although with PPE.
We have been so careful where possible and the above contact was a rarity and I’m cross with myself I didn’t say anything at the time.

Bottom line, it’s a legal requirement now. So the friend is being a dick.

That's modern society in a nut shell. Can't follow the rules or accept the consequences. Tell her to take some personal responsibility.

You absolutely did the right thing.

A ‘friend’ of mine put a post on FB a little while ago asking people not to give her details in this sort of situation. She doesn’t work.

I thought if I get a positive test, I’m going to give her details Even though I won’t have seen her, just to spite her (that’s a joke, I wouldn’t really!)

Then she started posting about how disgusting masks were, & no one should wear them. She’s no longer my FB friend.

You have to give accurate information. The whole system is only as good as the information received.

If your friend and her D.C. can't risk isolating, then they can't risk any non essential contact. It's a bit like pregnancy 🤷🏼‍♀️

@satnighttakeaway

It's the friend's fault if she/he hadn't been close to your son then you wouldn't have needed to report them at all. Keeping away from people is a huge factor in reducing transmission, unless they were somehow forced to be near your son they are the unreasonable one

This. If your friend had kept 2m from your DS they wouldn't count as close contact and Test and Trace wouldn't need to know about them. It does seem like lots of people have forgotten that just because you are allowed (in tier 1 anyway) inside other people's houses, that doesn't mean you don't have to social distance from the people in the other household.

I would give correct details and I'd expect any close contact of mine who subsequently tests positive to give my correct details.

can't believe that she thinks you are unreasonable. no wonder the virus is spreading. that is so irresponsible.