To be seriously angry at my parent.

[Muddledmotherhood]

My daughter(4) has the guess who game, she played it with my mum and there was a black character on there and my daughter said it looked like a monkey because he has full facial hair. I was mortified(I know she didn’t mean it in a horrid way but I was still mortified) I explained to my daughter to not say that as it will upset someone if you said it to them.
So my mum has obviously then told my dad what she had said, and a few days later he’s asked her, which one did you think was the monkey and found it funny. I was sat in the room at the time and asked him 3 times to stop asking her as it was seriously inappropriate and I DO NOT want her growing up thinking that sort of thing is funny.
He then absolute lost his shit because I’d told him what to do (regarding my bloody child might I add!!) I’m so angry at him for not actually listening to a word I said about not ever mentioning it again to her. I don’t understand what it is with his generation of people thinking things like this are funny, when they f**king aren’t!

My dad would have been 104 now. He served in India during the war and was appalled by some of the racist crap people come out with.

Ditto. Except my dad would have been a mere 101.(But also in India during the war) He called people out on racist language. It really is NOT a generational thing.

It has never been acceptable to liken people to monkeys. There has been no change in that. Most people are aware of overtly racist words. Where some older people make mistakes is where language changes over the years. Colouredwas once more polite than black, that changed then 'people of colour' became more frequently used. I think it's usually possible to tell from general attitude whether someone is being racist or has unintentionally said the wrong thing.