To consider 30 young not middle aged

[Iftheclouds]

I still consider 30 young however someone said to me recently that it’s middle aged. Aibu to disagree with this? 30 is the prime of childbearing years and to me anyone that can have children still isn’t really middle aged.

Guess your colleague is starting to have a midlife crisis . But no 30 is not middle aged by any stretch.

His parents will probably be around 50-60, by that reasoning they should be ooold, and then again his grandparent might be 80, what does he call that? Dinosaur ancient?

To me, as average lifespan is about 80, middle age starts at around 40.

However, I do think many of my friends (I am about to turn 30) think they are younger than they are. They are still living like they are 23, just out of university, which is great and fun, but I also have friends in their mid 30s who have had a sudden realisation that they want kids, house, etc and havent made any ground towards it.

45 onwards

30 is not young.

That's just something people aged 30 wish.

However neither is it "middle aged"

BiBabbles

We’re going to disagree. 30 is towards the end of the prime period in my mind, and towards the end of the prime period according to the BMJ. There’s no opinion that comes with that about whether people should be having kids; that’s obviously none of my business.

Based on the bible the life span is three score years and ten so middle aged would be 35 but in the same book it states that Noah lived until he was 950 so middle age in his case was 475.

Just one of the anomalies from that publication that has never been fully explained by our local vicar.

Of course 30 isn't middle-aged! I'm 50-ish and I don't feel middle-aged, although I suppose I am (and certainly don't want to live to 100!).

It's down to your personal experience, my dad died at 36 so I don't feel I ll be young once I get past that.

It’s not young, it’s just big standard adult. 40ish is middle age.

Bog not big* doh!

The prime for childbearing is 20-24 years. I'm sure I read.

I wouldn't say 30 was middle aged though. Adult, but not young adult.

It's not really the prime of childbearing years, you are classed as an 'old mum' by NHS at 30 but it's definitely not middle aged

DollhouseBurglar There have been some studies which give evidence that 20-24 year old women have the highest conception rates on average, but there is also strong evidence of a higher rate of miscarriage and a slightly higher rate of maternal mortality & lifetime disability compared to the late twenties (though far lower than those under 20 or over 40). When taking in social factors (a child requiring medical attention due to injuries, language development, similar factors) it also fares less well on average compared to older mothers.

No age range has everything the best, but 20-24 tends to be treated in a lot of the research I've worked with as a 'getting progressive safer' where as 24-34 the factors tend to be mostly positive though when divided up more some parts of that are better at something than others (miscarriages tend to increase after 30, but other outcomes tend to be better in 30-34 than in the twenties), with things getting progressively riskier after that. How people balance all those risks with the growing research on the topic and so many other factors is personal.

middle aged is ALWAYS ten years older than me

I'm 41 and I don't feel middle aged but I'm prepared to admit that I'm probably remarkably close. As evidenced by the fact that when I buy alcohol is a cursory look vaguely above my mask and they automatically press the approve button.....I mean would it kill them just to look a little longer or twice even

Realistically I don't think the middle aged concept means anything now. I have young ish DC at 7 and 4 and I'm by far not the oldest mum in the playground. I have plenty of working life left in me. I think it mattered in years gone past but now we are having children older , living longer. My family tends to last into their mid eighties. My great grandmother was well into her 90's , actually I think she was well over 95, as my departed great uncles used to say somewhat callously " Evil doesn't die" ( she was in fairness a truly awful women for all of her life).

So if we are talking longevity I reckon I'm looking good for another 40 maybe even 50 years.

Anyway when I think about its exciting, the things that have happened the ways I've changed in the last 20 years are amazing and huge. If the same occurs for the next twenty I'm in for a good ride so who cares.

But seriously just once ....it would be nice not to be the automatic approve bit buying alcohol , just a second glance please

These terms are meaningless.

FWIW a recent directive on this, from a health and wellbeing perspective, said that middle age now goes up to at least 70 as many people are still healthy and active then.

Middle age really has nothing to do with your age. It's how you behave.

I think its early to mid 40s to late 60s.
I didnt feel middle aged at 40 but by 43 I did.
Hes a kid! Ignore him!
I thought 20 was old when I was 14, it's all relative...

Oh fuck I’m 40.

Middle aged

I guess some of it is partly how you feel.

What?! I'm 30 and constantly get ID'd and asked if I'm my son's nanny. I'm definately not middle aged. (And this is definitely a not so humble brag)!

Of course 30 is young - unless you're in Logan's Run, in which case zzzzz-zap!

I’m 45. And just about accepting I am probably middle aged

I'm 58 and think of myself as middle aged - I still have kids in school. 30 you are just getting into your stride!
I don't think you could be considered elderly until late 70s.