To find someone renting a room in another town

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And then living with their parents odd? They rent this room out in town a bit are hardly ever there and are usually at their parents house in town b.

Unless it’s someone you’re dating I don’t see why you’d give it any space in your head

Yes it's odd. I know someone who's 21 and living in a 2 bed social housing property who spends about 6 nights out of 7 at her mum's house because she misses her. It infuriates me as that property could be put to far better use, probably by a family with kids.

Who is this person to you because if it’s someone you’re dating then it becomes a personal thing, if it’s like the PP’s post then I agree with them but also sort of not your problem. Or is it you and you’re worried what people think of you?

There are so many reasons someone if by do this.

They get lonely, they just like it, they are unwell mentally/physically, they feel vulnerable. All of those again for their parents. Then you could have things like the neighbours are a nuisance, they get an easy ride at home etc

How far apart are town A and town B?

Maybe they need the room for their commute but covid means they're more comfortable WFH in town B.

Maybe the other people in their rented house are twats.

Not odd, sometimes they like their own space, sometimes they like their parents company. Maybe they are single now, but use the place for shagging. Maybe its nearer to somewhere they go regularly and it's easier to have somewhere nearby... there are a million possible reasons.

Unless it’s your child that you don’t want at home anymore and want them to be independent, I don’t see how it can even be an issue for you.

I would say about 40 minutes apart. They are In uni in the town but aren’t in student accommodation.

Just seems a waste to spend 400+ a month for a room they use really.

Ok then.

Probably pre Covid uni would be more F2F and very sociable, currently it’s not - could be that?

I can understand it if you thought it was denying someone else a roof over their head, but otherwise why does it concern anyone?

It's hardly a normal year for uni students.

Is this your GP-registering cousin again?

No my cousin lives about 20 minutes away and is a home owner. It’s a work colleagues child.

A student will probably have had to make arrangements well before it was clear that most (all in some cases) lectures would be on line. They are committed to the year's rental contract. Now they have started the term they may have realised that there are very few clubs and societies running, social contact is limited, part time jobs are almost impossible to find so I can understand the appeal of going home to mum and dad. My DS is at Uni, paying £600 a month for a room in a shared flat ... he's happy to stay there but it's a lot of money and the Uni 'experience' is very different this year.

How does it affect you then?

Surely it's a shag pad? When theres no shag to be had it's back to mum and dad cos they get fed, etc?

If you know them then I’m sure you have more of an idea of their circumstances than we do. I don’t think it’s a bad thing to have a good relationship with your parents. If they’re still young then they may be wanting some independence, but also still craving the comforts at home

Did you write this just because you wanted to start a thread and it was all you can think of?

No I’m just wondering what the rationale is and thought people on here might give some ideas.

My relative is doing exactly this, it's because her mum has cancer and she wants to spend as much time with her as possible and a lot of her lectures are online which she wasn't expecting, honestly it would probably be cheaper for her to get a hotel the one or two nights she's actually in her uni city but she's tied to the lease for the year. The diagnosis is relatively recent and not common knowledge.

KarlKennedysDurianFruit Sorry to hear that: