DM demanded that I dropped everything last month on an evening where I had to hit a deadline or lose a 3K contract. I'm a freelancer and so is my husband. We have had to take a huge hit with Covid just to make ends meet. DM (who has no financial worries) had previously excluded me anyway but putting herself in a support bubble with my cousin who lives over 100 miles away and also has no financial worries (I am 12 miles away)But despite the contract, when this decision was made I couldn't' have DM or anyone else to stay because I had to self shield so I could have some cancer diagnostic scans that were being treated as urgent.
As a result of this, and the work I had to to, do my mother who had mellowed in her later years has reverted back to form and become the spiteful aggressive woman who I had as a mother and I hated.. She sanctioned physical and emotional abuse from my father when not also delivering that herself, and has allowed this to continue into my adulthood, manifested by my cousins involvement. Based upon whit DM told her (none it true) I have received hate mail and threats from the cousin. I have explained the circumstances that I faced at the time but these have been rubbished by both of them and they've then gone behind my back and tried to get my own daughter on side against me,. I want DM to leave me alone and I want to feel I can ask this without being unreasonable. She's 84 and alone but has all her marbles and still able to dish out the hurt she always did. She doesn't have dementia.What would you do?