To be hurt

[chickenpizza]

I’m pregnant, and 41 in January.

Since turning about 33, I’ve been excited about friends pregnancies, scans and tiny sleepsuits and prams and I’ve bought little clothes and toys and made a fuss of them.

Now I get nothing.

It’s not the material things it’s more the lack of interest. I do understand they have their own families but AIBU to have hoped there might be a bit of excitement left?

That's pants OP. It's a difficult year as the usual social niceties and meet-ups are all out the window.

Congratulations though!

YANBU. To be honest I was never that genuinely interested in friend's pregnancies (except maybe the first one to get pregnant) but you ask questions and look at scan photos because it's important to them, also it's fun picking out cute onesies. I have older kids now and I get excited about friend's babies as they did for me.

How exciting for you but a disappointing lack of reaction from your friends. I'd be hurt too.

Oh, that is sad. I'm sorry. Like others have said, the excitement should be for you regardless of whether it's novel to them.

Ah it’s a shame, someone once told me you’ll always be disappointed if you expect others to act as you would

I'd consider getting some new friends!
True friends would be pleased to support you on the ups, and the downs of life.
This is a special time for you, it's not much to ask for a little bit of enthusiasm from folk in relation to your pregnancy.
You'll find once you have the baby you will expand your social circle ( if Covid buggers off!)
Congratulations OP I am really pleased to say it's a wonderful thing, all the excitement of a new baby to celebrate.

That is hurtful. I’m a mum of 3. I would still be excited for you and looking forward to browsing for a sweet baby gro or something for you after it’s been so long since I’ve done that!

What is it you want from your friends?

With all due respect, other peoples pregancies aren't very interesting, so I wouldn't do anything much bar ask how you are once or twice a week, unless you told me specific information you wanted to talk about, or that you were excited about.

It will be different when baby arrives.

This year has also just been really odd, and people have so much going on and are often running on empty just trying to get themselves and their kids through all this, so don't have much left for anyone else.

Congrats on the pregnancy, hope you're feeling ok

Congratulations

All I can think of is that they are so wrapped up in their own lives with their ow kids that they have forgotten the excitement of what it feels like.

Or perhaps they thought you were OTT when they were expecting and don’t go in for fuss?

Are they usually this quiet around big birthdays or celebrations if any other sort?

Could it be they are struggling, many are. Redundancies, worries about elderly relatives, frightened to leave the house etc?

If not, your friends are ignorant (and perhaps as pp have said you should get new mates).

How exciting. Congratulations

Spring baby or summer baby? Hopefully covid will be over and done with and you'll have the best summer ever

I think you did well to get interested in others pregnancies and babies, my experience was that I didn't 'get' it before I had a child.

You may need new friends...However, I found my emotions all over the place when I was pregnant and for the first year or two and these are strange times where social interaction is limited and people are worried for their livelihoods, so hang on in there, your friends may come through in the end.

It is a bit rubbish. I was the opposite as I had my dc at 28 and my friends weren't bothered and didn't understand. Now that they're having their babies at 38 I'm all over it (I love babies though) and take an interest.

I'd be excited for you OP. I am excited! At 45 I'd love the excuse to buy baby bits for someone now I'm done.