Daughter (7) dad isn’t the greatest to say the least but I would be here all day If I went in to background. However he is inconsistent with visiting etc and is a bit flakey. Saying this he loves nothing better to do than wind me and make excuses etc so has contact every few weeks over message etc with excuses. Recently we have had to join forces due to us both needing to participate in some tests for daughters health. We had not been arguing, and for the first time in he was being consistent with payments ( said he set up a standing order for every 2 weeks)
Mid August, ( tests were due to be done mid September ) he messaged me saying he had just been discharged as had an accident at work and his arm got infected ( sent photos which were Grim )
I replied nicely saying wow that looks painful how did you do it. This is the last time we have heard from him. He didn’t turn up for tests, he hasn’t even read my mutiple what’s app messages, his phone was originally ringing but then started doing to voicemail straight away and now just saying “ can not connect your call “ we live quite far away from each other and I don’t know any of his friends and quite frankly he hasn’t painted me in a very good light to them.
I have rang the mobile number I once had for his mum but she isn’t answering.
My what’s app messaged have all not been read and no last active on there.
I’m starting to get a bit worried about him.
He does have a history of drugs and as I said has not been the ideal father. Money has gone in to my bank twice this month but I’m not sure if that is a standing order but absolutely 0 word from him.
I suppose I can’t call around professionals because I’m not his next of kin.
My daughter is asking where her dad is ( she is in hospital ) and I literally have no idea what to say. This isn’t so much am I being unreasonable rather than an off load !
( I posted this accidentally somewhere else I am aware and waiting for it to be removed )