A friend of mine I've know for 15 years has two kids who are quite young 3 and 6. They both have November birthdays and then its christmas and normally I do buy them a gift for their birthday and christmas.
Over the past few years I have seen my these friends less and less, I don't have children myself and have always been very accomodating and I'm fond of their kids but I understand they are rushed off their feet and that its probably nicer for them to socialise with other familes with children.
I think I saw them twice last year (once when I went to hand over gifts) and once this year. Obviously with lockdown its understandable but I've initiated contact a couple of times and while I get a reply if I didn't email or text them I'd not hear from them, I stopped trying in July and haven't heard from them since.
The thought has crossed my mind that they are phasing me out but to give them the benefit of the doubt I'll assume that they will get in touch in the future.
With the whole pandemic and not being able to get out to the shops the same or earning the same I was thinking of not buying their kids a gift this year for christmas or birthday but to instead wait and get them a gift each when I do actually see them again in person, which realisticlly will be next year now I think.
Is this unreasonable?