Do you talk to your friends every day?

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Bit of a random one, I’m an introvert and recently made a new friend. I have friends but we usually talk once or twice a month and that’s fine.
New friend keeps messaging me every day, and it was nice at first but I’m struggling to know what to talk about now. It’s all day every day. I don’t mind as I like them but I’m finding it slightly draining and when we do meet up we have nothing to talk about as it’s been spoken about already on text.

YABU - get over yourself, make conversation even if it’s just about random things.
YANBU - I’d find that to much too.

hiya

i think im a bit of an introvert too and i love my own company.
and sometimes i find texting/group chats too much. I often put my phone on do not disturb.

If you are finding it too much, just cut the replies down! or slow down your replies. She will eventually get the hint that you are not available for chats every day.

i have some friends who i would speak to every day or 2 and talk random crap but i have other friends that i only speak to every few weeks and its lovely as you have lots to catch up on :)

i feel your pain though!

I have one friend I speak to daily but no a new friend that is way too much!

I have a friend who I tend to message most days. Just random things. Not intrusive we just get on & like to say hi.

Way too much. I speak to mine once or twice a month. You'll have to be brave and gently explain it's too much.

Me and my closest friend message each other everyday but not several times every day, some days it's just a quick hello. I message my sister and neice most days and my cousin several times a week.

I speak to my close friend everyday at some point, might not be for long, a quick funny video/meme etc. And I see the other most days, but we live across the road from each other and have DC at same school. So we have a tea together at least.

But I've known them for 10+ years, went to school with them. Seeing new friends would feel too much for me. I would hold off having an awkward chat about it and just take longer to reply, they will learn quickly thats how you are.

I text one friend most days, though this is mainly because we have DDs who are best friends and remind each other about school events. We also help each other out as and when needed, as she lives three doors down from me.

With other friends, we text as and when, or comment on Facebook posts, or telephone each other. But that certainly isn’t every day.

The only person I talk to every day is my DP, either we talk on phone or message frequently. Friends are mostly on Whatsapp groups, with the occasional phone call and meetups once a month or so. Suits me and I'm an introvert.

Complete introvert here. I have two closeish friends. We talk on the phone a couple of times a month.

Yanbu
I talk to my Mum every day, not anyone else

I have a couple of close friend group chats, we will message most days but it will probably just be a couple of messages.. not all day.

Sounds very full on if it’s just texting between the two of you. Is she perhaps feeling bored/isolated/lonely?

I think the only option is just don’t reply until you have a few minutes when you feel like engaging. Maybe just reply once a day or something.

A little bit each day with very close friends/my sister, other than that no, and all day every day would not work for me AT ALL. And I'm not an intorvert!

I have two friends I speak to every day. Another couple of friends I speak to most days. Another I speak to a couple of times every week.

I also speak to my parents and brothers most days.

I have about 4-5 friends who I talk to daily but we don't expect quick replies because we're all on different schedules/working hours etc. And it's not all day, everyday. Somedays it might be one or two messages, others 20+.

I'm in a couple of whatsapp groups with friends and there usually are a few messages, but all very low stakes stuff and nobody is expected to reply quickly (if at all).

And my best friend and I probably message everyday, but again usually silly jokes or photos - very low pressure and sometimes the other person will reply the day after.

If it's too draining for you that's perfectly reasonable, everyone has their own limit of how much chat they like. Could you say things like if a specific topic comes up, 'it's too long to talk about over message, let's catch up when we next meet?' or similar?

When you say all day, op, approx how many messages are you talking about? I wouldn't bee in touch every day with any of my friends, unless there was some sort of crisis, illness or arrangements being made, and then only over a few days.

Complete extravert here

It would never occur to me to message someone unless there was something to ask or something to tell them that I think they would enjoy.

Different types of friend have different levels of communications.

Consider myself to be fairly introverted and happy being in my own company. I have one friend who I speak to most days, sometimes multiple times a day. Its not long chats most of the time and its usually the inane drivel, but neither of us mind. We both chat on speaker whilst doing other things and neither is offended if the other doesn’t answer or abruptly finishes the call due to a distraction.

My closest friend and I tend to interact via social media a few times a week but will only meet or speak to each other a couple of times a month - but those times are often more longer and meaningful conversations.

Got a couple of group chats where its a once or twice a week thing but no pressure to respond immediately.

Wow! People speak to their friends a lot. I’d be lucky to speak to friends every couple of weeks with messages here and there.

YANBU. I barely talk to DH every day

No, there isn't anyone I speak to or message every day, and never has been! If DH is away (back in the old days when that used to happen) we wouldn't necessarily speak every day. My couple of closest friends/sisters/daughter (at Uni) might range from a few times a week, to once every few weeks, depending on what's going on. I'd like to perhaps have slightly more contact with at least one friend, but I get the impression that isn't their way so that's ok with me. Don't want to be annoying!

I'm also surprised by all the people who contact other people every day!

Introvert here. That’s way too much.

My DM has recently informed me that I’m known for not answering my calls/texts within the family. She reassured me that the family just accept me as me and don’t take it personally.

My few friends also know that sometimes I will disappear off the face of the earth for a couple of weeks and accept it.

My nephew informed me that it’s known as “leaving people on read”. I don’t want to come across as rude, but I prioritise my mental well being over other people’s emotions.

That sounds too much. I like to text friends but it can soon feel like too much if the conversation goes on. I have developed a few responses to cut things short like answer what ever the query is and end with 'have a good day x', 'see you soon/ next week ', 'got to go now,running late'. Just like I might if I get stopped to chat in the street. I am not sure if it comes across at rude. I think it is sometimes hard to tell when the conversation has ended and it drifts to awkwardneds so I find the above helps.

I don't text anyone every day, whether family or friends. I'd find that suffocating. I wouldn't text anyone wfh because I consider they are busy working. I actually text less since lockdown and restrictions were put in place and can't stand it when texts go back and forth.

I do telephone and speak to a family member, who lives alone, for half an hour or so every day to check on their welfare though.