To be pissed off!

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I'm ill at the minute, pain all over my body which I've had for a while but it's just unmanageable at the minute and I feel cold to my bones and have a headache. I just want to stay in bed under the quilt and sleep.
My partner didn't help with the baby and said I'd slept half the night so should be fine. Half the night isn't enough especially when ill. This morning he's switched all the lights on and given the baby a bell to play with. Usually he does 50/50 but when I'm ill it's like I can't be!
On top of that I run a care home so have a stressful job and my boss called when I'd said I'm off ill asking if I think I'm capable of doing my job in the future as he needs me "fighting fit". Well I wish I was but I've dragged myself in for months and this is what I get for it.
I don't have anyone else to moan at sorry!

Sorry to hear you are feeling really crap at the moment. Sounds like you have a lot to deal with. Your husband sounds selfish and should be stepping up.

Your boss and your other half are unhelpful buggers! Not sure I have any advice but sending sympathy.
As a side note, have you had a covid test recently as being cold and tired with a headache is how I felt...

Sorry to hear you're having to struggle like this. Sounds obvious but have you explained to your dh how bad you feel? I have to be a drama queen for my dh to get the message. For some reason he doesn't have enough common sense to realise when I'm unwell. I could be falling asleep in front of him and he'll carry on talking! Don't return to work until you're 100% though or you'll just be ill again.

Your dh and your boss are both idiots. How are you going to be 'fighting fit' if you don't take the time to get well. I bet you are more considerate when your dh is ill
Hope you're feeling better soon

So sorry OP.

How awful to be feeling so unwell and to be surrounded by such selfishness.

The father of your child is showing you EXACTLY who he is.....a selfish prick, who hasn't your back.

Reach out to family and friends for support.

You need to rest.

have you had a covid test recently Yes I'm tested every week. The symptoms I've had for months, since the baby was born but they're just really bad at the moment.

have you explained to your dh how bad you feel? Yes and it's obvious as I can't help but express pain when I move.

Op, have you spoken to your doctor and is he or she running tests?

There are two issues here, one is your support, the other what is being done to help you recover.

Is there any way also this could be psychosomatic? As it’s been since your child was born, a physical manifestation of pnd?

Doctor is aware, have only been able to have phone appointments and no tests have been done at all. Just been told to wait a few more months before calling again each time.

Have they at least done blood tests?
Is there anyway you can get in touch with anyone from the baby side of things? Grasping as it's been since birth,

My iron was a little low but I'm on 3 tablets a day for it and my last count was fine. They just don't seem bothered. I'm waiting for a call back today as I can't stand it any more. Things hurt that shouldn't such as my partner cuddling me or one of the other kids bumping into me/hugging me.

I think you need to be very clear with the doctor, explain how bad this is. And how it’s stopping you functioning, the impact it’s having on your life. That this can’t go on, and you need help. You need to be very clear on the scale of your illness.

Ask for thyroid tests.

Google Fibromyalgia. I hope you are feeling better soon. It's tough to be ill for a long time.

Thanks I will. I've written everything down so i don't forget anything on the phone. I'm hoping they actually do something this time!

Sounds like exhaustion to me. Your body will hurt if it’s not getting the rest it desperately needs.
Your DH is a dick.

I just wanted to say thanks everyone. I spoke to a different dr and he's really concerned. He wanted me to have urgent blood tests but apparently there's issues with the lab so I can't have them til weds. Hopefully it'll be the first stepping stone to diagnosis!