I’m feeling so sad, I’ve recently split with my partner of just over 3 yrs. For the last few months I’ve felt like an option while he sees friends and drinks almost every night, then I get a slurred phone conversation before bed (we didn’t live together). I expected a bit more of a normal family lifestyle considering we’d been together so long, both in our early fifties and I have a child whilst he has a few grandchildren. I was looking forward to being a gran to them but he never seemed to want to spend time with them. I’d get a walk with him and maybe cook him a meal once or twice a week, after which he’d go back to his own place because he was so tired (he’s been working a lot lately - even though he doesn’t need the money at all). He never invited me to his because he was embarrassed about the state of his house, but never made an effort to change it. I thought he was the love of my life and he said I was his one true love, but now feel so let down by his lack of effort in our relationship and life in general and couldn’t take any more of the worthless feelings, i was noticing other couples doing nice things together while he was choosing a night on his own drinking at home or at friends. It just feels like such a waste of what I thought would be an amazing relationship because of everything else we had between us.