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londongirl12 · 13/10/2020 15:31

More details please!

Redwolf1 · 13/10/2020 15:47

Depends on the details but I cant imagine it's done nicely often. I screenshot a picture from a food page and sent it to my friend, it was a lovely looking cheeseboard but I'm guessing it's not something similar you're talking about

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WFHWFH2020 · 13/10/2020 15:50

I don’t want to give out any specifics but it’s that person’s nice news - done in a nice way - but it still doesn’t sit right with me.

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Leaannb · 13/10/2020 15:51

There is no expectation of privacy while on the internet.

WorraLiberty · 13/10/2020 15:52

That's a hard one to answer because I'm not sure there is a 'modern etiquette'?

I guess it would boil down to the reason for doing it and whether it was for spiteful reasons or not.

SM no matter how 'private' you make it, is never really private. It's not like opening someone's diary and photocopying the pages.

DynamoKev · 13/10/2020 15:53

Don't put stuff on SM that you don't want someone to see, job done. Posting details of your banal life on SM is not compulsory.

WorraLiberty · 13/10/2020 15:53

@WFHWFH2020

I don’t want to give out any specifics but it’s that person’s nice news - done in a nice way - but it still doesn’t sit right with me.

Oh in that case I'd have no problem saying to someone, "Ohh guess what I've read on Sarah's Facebook? (Insert nice thing here) isn't that lovely news?"

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WFHWFH2020 · 13/10/2020 15:54

Not for spiteful reasons - but it’s just not that person’s thing to screenshot and share of you know what I mean - personally I wouldn’t do it, I think it’s up to that person to be able to control who they share that with - even though I understand there is nothing that it private on there, I wouldn’t expect any of my friends to do that, if that makes sense.

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WhatWouldJKRDo · 13/10/2020 15:55

Like people screenshotting slanders about people the poster has blocked on Twitter? How else do people take action against it?

EhUp · 13/10/2020 15:55

If it is something like a pregnancy being announced on FB then you have to accept that it is essentially in the public domain once its been posted

If it was something more private like a whatsapp message then I agree that taking a screen shot and forwarding on is not good form

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WFHWFH2020 · 13/10/2020 15:55

@WorraLiberty yes I agree with that, but actually screenshotting it (with a photo) and sending it to someone?

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nestisflown · 13/10/2020 15:58

If it’s a private group then yes against etiquette but there will always be a risk that any private posts made are shared.

If it’s good news being shared then I don’t think it’s a problem or that there’s any etiquette. If the news was a secret then it should be shared in directly to the intended recipients rather than a mass message via social media.

DaisyChainsForever · 13/10/2020 16:00

Agree with pp there's a big difference between facebook and whatsapp. Does the person being shown not have social media, or are they not friends with the person who's news it was?

Redwolf1 · 13/10/2020 16:46

I think once you share something on social media it's there for the world to see. If you want to be the one to share your news best keep it off social media. I never "announced" pregnancies on social media because I wanted to make sure important people heard it from me and after the important people knew I didnt really care about telling anyone else or who knew

Ancara · 13/10/2020 17:06

@WFHWFH2020

AIBU to think that sharing someone’s sm (ie screenshooting it) with someone who does not have access to that person’s account is, at least, against modern etiquette,

What's prompted this, has something of yours been shared you didn't want the other person to see?

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WFHWFH2020 · 13/10/2020 17:17

@DaisyChainsForever not friends

@Ancara no nothing of mine

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DaisyChainsForever · 13/10/2020 17:33

If the person who's news it is and the person being shown are not friends, i fail to see why they'd even want to see it? It's definitely weird.

Bluesheep8 · 14/10/2020 07:09

I think once you share something on social media it's there for the world to see. If you want to be the one to share your news best keep it off social media.

Quite simply - this!
As far as I can see, if it's private - keep it that way.

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WFHWFH2020 · 14/10/2020 10:37

I suppose my question is more regarding the person sharing that news - whether they are bu by doing it.

Personally I wouldn’t, I would feel like it’s not mine to share.

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EhUp · 14/10/2020 11:24

If someone has put news on FB then I would assume they are happy for that news to be shared. For example my Mum doesn't use FB but if one of my cousins announced a pregnancy, new job, engagement or whatever on FB then I could see myself saying to her 'have you heard cousin Sarah's news?' and passing it on, if I didn't speak to Mum then I suppose I might screenshot and forward to her (hypothetical as my Mum doesn't have a smartphone but you get my gist! )

If news has been shared by a more private means then I wouldn't share it with a third party unless I'd been given express permission to share

Hahaha88 · 14/10/2020 11:42

It's not really any different from that person saying I'm person oh did you hear Bill and Ben got engaged /bought a new house /got a job etc

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WFHWFH2020 · 14/10/2020 11:45

@EhUp yeah I get that situation, I’m assuming if you mum was on FB she would be friends with your cousin

@Hahaha88 yes that’s basically what I said about the news after speaking to the person in question 😁

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Strugglingtodomybest · 14/10/2020 11:50

If it's posted on social media then it's out there and fair game.

I don't consider WhatsApp to be social media, it's social messaging.

expat101 · 01/06/2021 00:30

@Redwolf1

I think once you share something on social media it's there for the world to see. If you want to be the one to share your news best keep it off social media. I never "announced" pregnancies on social media because I wanted to make sure important people heard it from me and after the important people knew I didnt really care about telling anyone else or who knew

That's an interesting point and helps explain a situation for me (I think) thank you.