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Would this be completely weird

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90sgirlx · 12/10/2020 14:39

I am desperate here guys. But I need you to tell me if this is weird. I really like someone. I don't know anything much about him just his name. He's been abit flirty with me and lights up when I walk past him. Always burning his eyes into me. Stops talking to others to shout stuff to me but in a pleasant warm way. He's adorable but I think he's really shy in an approaching way. A few weeks ago when I first met him he brought my sons ball back because it rolled over the road. He picked the ball up and looked nervous and had his head looking away from me. I said oh thank you so much in a really bubbly voice. His head turned to me then and he smiled and started talking. Spoke to my son etc. We've had a few little moments since then and I've caught him gazing. He asked me to cook him breakfast last week and when I said I could just eat that now he said he could go buy us all one. By all he brought his work mates into it.

I really am curious about him. But the worst bit is he's not always outside anymore. He's moved onto another job and he only comes once a week on average although the jobs not finished so he could be back but I literally don't know.

He's not plucked up the courage to push things and he probably doesn't want too. But If that's the case I'm awful at reading men. I've not had the courage to do anything either and I fear it's slipping away and he's constantly on my mind.

So I've looked at the page he works for. How inappropriate would it be to contact a very small company of young blokes doing landscaping through email (he's besties with the boss) and request that said man puts his number through my door if he would like to talk. That is beyond weird isn't it? Like super weird. I am cringing even thinking about it. I considered sticking my number on his cement mixer. But that's just weird too.

Or do I leave it haha. I need some serious advice guys. Is he the one that got away or do I need to make a move???

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HollowTalk · 12/10/2020 14:43

Yeah, don't do that.

FWIW he doesn't sound shy to me - he's shouting to you in the street, asking you to cook him breakfast (hope you didn't do that!) - if he wanted to go out with you I think he'd be capable of letting you know.

CalmdownJanet · 12/10/2020 14:43

Yup don't do that it's a bit stalker like. If he is still about once a week just write down your number and ask him if he would like to meet for a drink, if he says no then it's not like you have to see him too often and it's far less embarrassing than calling his work. But I do hope he says yes, go for it!

WillowintheUK · 12/10/2020 14:44

Just leave it. Please don’t embarrass yourself. I’m cringing thinking about it.

FlorenceNightshade · 12/10/2020 14:46

Woah OP please don’t try to contact him through his work that could cause all kinds of problems. The next time you see him just ask him out. If he says no smile and move on. If he says yes then enjoy!

He could be married, involved, just a flirt so approach it casually so if that is the case you can brush it off as no big deal.

AryaStarkWolf · 12/10/2020 14:47

Yeah don't call his work, that's really weird. Just ask him out when you see him again

90sgirlx · 12/10/2020 14:49

I thought it was weird myself. I won't do it. I just don't get the chance to approach him Infront of his friends. It's really tricky. He doesn't shout across to me unless he's by himself if he's going to flirt. But he still calls over to me Infront of them. He could be married or something your right.

He told me neighbour he thinks I'm really lovely too. I think that encouraged me more aghh.

I will leave it and move on.

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WhatWouldJKRDo · 12/10/2020 14:50

It would be completely unacceptable to call his workplace. You'd look like a madwoman.

JuliaJohnston · 12/10/2020 14:50

Is he a builder, op? This is what they do...! He doesn't sound remotely shy; if he could ask you to make breakfast, he could have asked you out.

WorraLiberty · 12/10/2020 14:50

Yes, very bad idea.

If he wants to put his number through your door, he'll take the initiative I'm sure.

Cocomarine · 12/10/2020 14:56

Not to shy to ask you to make him breakfast! Shock

Cocomarine · 12/10/2020 14:56

*too

90sgirlx · 12/10/2020 14:56

As I say it's just a team of lads that have been using my driveway and speaking to me. Probably not even that big. I was going to email the page. But I know totally looney weird. He's a landscaper lol. He just acts like he's really interested in me. But you are right he hasn't plucked up the courage. But men can sometimes feel scared of rejection too. I got told women should approach too. But I can't find a non creepy way to hint. So I guess I'll let him go lol. I wouldn't ring him work or a huge company. They only have 4 friends on the Facebook page. So it's not a big thing.

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HollowTalk · 12/10/2020 15:16

This makes me think of someone who is wolfwhistled at by a man in a van while she's walking down the street, and then goes home and phones his company to leave a message to ask whether he wants a date.

KrisAkabusi · 12/10/2020 15:17

I got told women should approach too. But I can't find a non creepy way to hint. So I guess I'll let him go lol.

Jesus Christ, just ask him out! You don't need to hint, just ask if he wants to go for a drink.

FlorenceNightshade · 12/10/2020 15:45

@JuliaJohnston is it really necessary to tar all builders with your sexist brush????

Cantthinkofausename · 12/10/2020 15:45

You keep saying 'he hasn't plucked up the courage'

Has it ever crossed your mind that he doesn't actually want to ask you out lol?

BetsyBigNose · 12/10/2020 16:48

Oh just go for it - what have you got to lose?! Seriously, what's the worst that can happen? He says he's not interested or says thanks but I'm married...? Not the end of the world, but it could be the start of something amazing! Grin Just give him your number next time you see him and then most importantly report back and let us know what happens, good luck! Wink

Fallsballs · 12/10/2020 16:53

Spot on Hollowtalk - I actually did a small lol

Whosthatgirlitsjess · 12/10/2020 17:27

They're using your driveway?

pictish · 12/10/2020 17:30

I’m inclined to think that if he was interested in a date he’d have progressed things further by now. He doesn’t sound shy and I’m sure your manner has been receptive.

Tattoocrazymum · 12/10/2020 18:02

I had to laugh at sticking your number in his cement mixer 🤣
I would say go for it. I love these posts, did you see the postman one, i was so invested in that and was so pleased he left his number

90sgirlx · 12/10/2020 18:46

I'm laughing at myself too. I'm sure not all builders are the same lol?

I dunno. He doesn't need to stare at me and tell the neighbour stuff about me either. But he does. It's either a man with a crush or an absolute player I guess. But he isn't flirting with the neighbour who's only 8 years older than me.

I have got out of looney mode now anyway. It was just a crazy idea that I knew was mental as I typed it. 2020 has bored the stuffing out of me. I clearly need a hobby lol!

Thanks for talking me out of it lol!!

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