I love cleaning my house, but its hard work we have three children and two dogs, its a viscous circle of picking up after everyone including my DP. Now i never ever moan about my DP but lately hes become really lazy and tonight Ive blown! I got up this morning and cleared all the beer bottles away from last night, i had a bottle of wine when the kids went to bed, ive prepared and cooked dinner, cleaned up three times then his mate called and he said he was going to the pub because they might be shut again tomorrow. Now i know im doing nothing out of the ordinary just been a good mom and housewife but im absolutely sick of picking up after him. His response was youve got some massive balls saying that i do nothing around here ive worked all week (from home in his office where most of the day hes talking to his mates on the phone) I also work 2 nights a week as a nurse, i was like why have i got massive balls for telling you the truth? So weve had a but of a slanging match not resolved anything and ive come to bed tribg to pinpoint when he became a twat, hes sat downstairs listening to music loudly whilst two kids are in bed, drinking a beer acting like im in the fuckin wrong. We never do anything anymore, not that we can at the moment, but it really frustrates me that men can just decide without any notice or planning that they can drop their responsibilities and disappear. This is the first disagreement weve had for about three years my bloods boiling. So AIBU to be annoyed? Am i in the wrong here??