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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To think that someone in this position should be following Covid guidelines?

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Skvof · 10/10/2020 22:46

Someone I know has been honoured today for their work as a healthcare professional.

Same person is regularly 'seen' on social media with friends and family, not social distancing and/or in groups larger than are permitted under current guidelines and laws.

AIBU to think that given their role (and as the recipient of an award they're clearly well respected in their field etc) they should know better/ be following the rules?

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winesolveseverything · 10/10/2020 22:58

Oh bore off.

As a fellow hcp, I can vouch for the fact this person will have been to hell and back through all of this, and the end is nowhere near in sight yet.

I'm glad you have so much spare time to notice and pick fault with what they do in their downtime.

Mind your own business.

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Skvof · 10/10/2020 23:03

I've met family once since March and not met up with any friends socially, nor have most people I know. Hence why this persons social activity is so noticeable. And to add they are not (due to seniority) in a frontline role.

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gobbynorthernbird · 10/10/2020 23:05

It's your own issue if you're too afraid to see family, or socialise. Both can be done relatively safely if you're worried about contracting or passing on Covid.

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Skvof · 10/10/2020 23:14

I'm not afraid. I'm following the guidance, rules and laws in place. I only mentioned what I and most people are doing ok r rather not doing because it makes this persons constant socialising stand out more on social media as no one else is out with friends and family every week.

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winesolveseverything · 10/10/2020 23:25

I'm frontline NHS.
I've met up with friends. Had play dates with the children. Been abroad on holiday. Eaten out loads. Seen family members.

I've not broken any rules. Everything has been within the boundaries of what we can do. However, I don't post it on SM because of judgmental people like you.

I need some normality amidst the chaos and stress I'm living through at work. But feel free to judge me as much as you have this other person. I really couldn't care less.

indemMUND · 10/10/2020 23:42

OP clearly says that this person is breaking current guidelines/laws. It's not hard to see OP's point here.

PhilCornwall1 · 11/10/2020 05:44

God, it's like being back in March/April. 7 months on and people still give a toss what others are doing?

At this rate, people will still be moaning about what others are doing in 12 months time.

PracticingPerson · 11/10/2020 06:13

It is annoying, but there's nothing that can be done and no point giving it head space!

Monty27 · 11/10/2020 06:19

OP just keep doing what you do never mind anyone else

supersonicginandtonic · 11/10/2020 06:23

As someone who's sister attempted suicide due to the isolation of lockdown. Mind your own bloody business. Mental health is important too and you have no idea what this person has/is going through.

Also hysterical people are just as bad as you are hiding away due to fear. Not seeing family and friends is not the rules, or at least it hasn't been consistently since March.

MumsGoneToIceland · 11/10/2020 06:25

God, it's like being back in March/April. 7 months on and people still give a toss what others are doing?

Because we desperately don’t want to be locked down again and it’s incredibly frustrating for those who are following the rules and makIng sacrifices to try and achieve this to see others not doing this and have to sit back and watch the inevitable unfold.

When we locked down, the cases went down so distancing and limiting interactions obviously works. We clearly can’t do that forever so finding sensible compromises to keep things manageable makes logical sense to me and seems to be working in more compliant countries.

Watching Margaret Ferrier now justify in the papers why she should now continue to represent us whilst having ignored the rules so badly and infected god knows how many people on two train journeys makes me really cross. I can just about accept the travelling there thinking she had got tested unnecessarily but to do it after a positive test result is just not acceptable to me.

So OP, no I don’t think you are being unreasonable to be frustrated when you see others not following the rules, but sadly as the above comments show its every man for themselves.

userxx · 11/10/2020 06:35

@MumsGoneToIceland I find it frustrating that people are still judging. You do you and I'll do me.

luckylavender · 11/10/2020 07:02

@winesolveseverything - your post sums up the mood & anger in this country perfectly. If those people who are role models in this situation treat it as a them & us situation then we're in this for a very long time.

luckylavender · 11/10/2020 07:05

@userxx - and another one - you do you and I'll do me. You know if we all did that the hospitals would be full before you know it & you'd be the first one shouting.

JamminDoughnuts · 11/10/2020 07:12

who is this person?

redcarbluecar · 11/10/2020 07:16

What exactly have you seen on social media that proves this person is ‘breaking rules’?
Personally I’m not posting very much on SM, although obvs it’s anyone’s choice to do so. However, have been out in groups of friends/family where we sat at fairly normal distances apart (i.e. sat in the seats as they’d been arranged by the pub/restaurant) and were photographed. I suppose if I did post some of the pics it might look as if we were acting with disregard, when actually I’m pretty sure we were within guidelines.

JamminDoughnuts · 11/10/2020 07:40

is this some kind of witch hunt?

Newjez · 11/10/2020 08:08

Do you think the police should be monitoring Facebook?

Are the police monitoring Facebook?

Do we really want to go there?

I guess you could report her op if you were that concerned?

RancidOldHag · 11/10/2020 08:08

Everyone should be following the rules.

No need to pick on one person you think is transgressing.

Though there are so many people who are becoming Cummings clones and saying they are going to assess their own risk, that tighter restrictions seem inevitable now.

GlacindaTheTroll · 11/10/2020 08:09

Yeah, pix on SM are always recent and always accurately representative

CakeRequired · 11/10/2020 08:16

@userxx

So you would get on a train with a positive covid test, knowing you're infecting everyone on it? Good to know you think that's an OK thing to do.

userxx · 11/10/2020 08:17

@luckylavender I'm following the guidelines, that does not mean unnecessarily cutting myself off from the world which is how some believe we should all be behaving. If people want to live their life that way then so be it, I won't be.

Why would I be the first one shouting if the hospitals filled up? What a ridiculous thing to say!

luckylavender · 11/10/2020 08:24

@userxx - so you're following guidelines if they suit you if I read your post correctly. And that's exactly why this will run & run because everyone thinks of themselves first. No one likes this, I have elderly parents 220 miles in one direction & a DS 250 miles on another direction & it's really really hard. But I know that if everyone said 'you do you & I'll do me' then this will take much longer. It's such a selfish attitude.

userxx · 11/10/2020 08:31

@luckylavender Where does it say I'm following guidelines only when it suits myself? This virus will run and run because it's a virus and that's what they do. It's not rocket science 🤷‍♂️. Learn to live with it is the only way forward. Knew it wouldn't take long before the selfish comment was thrown around, so predictable.

userxx · 11/10/2020 08:31

@CakeRequired Have you been drinking?

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