Forgot my grandma’s birthday and feel like the worst human.

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It was her birthday yesterday and I feel like an absolute cunt. I don’t know what to do to rectify it.

I have NO excuse but for context I have severe (NHS psychologist diagnosed) ADHD and my biological father died in May, so my brain is basically a wet blob full of horrors atm.

I just feel so so awful. And I’m too scared to message and say I forgot because then she’ll think I don’t love her. Who forgets their grandmas birthday ffs. I am despicable, and posting on MN instead of fixing it. Even worse.

AND being melodramatic and bananas.

Call her quickly and say happy birthday and make out you thought it was today

I'm not close to my Gran as she is not very nice but I rarely get her card to her on time even though it is the same date as DH!

Put the card in the post and blame the postman.

Well if you don't ring her to say a belated Happy birthday then she will think you forgot completely.
Tell her that you are really sorry , ask her if she would like a socially distanced tea somewhere.
She will be thrilled to hear from you.

If it helps... one year I managed to forget my mum's birthday AND phones her on the day to moan about something trivial at work. She must have thought I was ringing because I remembered... nope.

Can you give her a call and say “so sorry I didn’t get a chance to call you yesterday, but I hope your card and flowers arrived!” and then act shocked when she says they didn’t, then “chase it up” with the company by quickly ordering some.

The good thing about grandmas is that they forgive you anything. Rind and apologise and tell her you love her, it'll be absolutely fine.

Ring*

Don’t lie. Call her as soon as is reasonable and tell her you’re so sorry you forgot, wish her happy birthday, and invite her out somewhere nice. It will be fine. She loves you - she’s going to assume your best intentions.