To think it’s no one else’s business

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if I choose to give up my bedroom so that my dc don’t have to share. So we moved into a council property last month after probate renting for years. Me and dh were made up to get the house even though it did need a degree of work to make it decent. We decided to give up our bedroom so that our ds’s don’t have to share. Eldest ds is a teenager and youngest ds is 10 and has special needs. They had previously shared a bedroom but our eldest ds didn’t get a moments peace and we decide it wasn’t fair. So me and dh have moved into the dining room which we are happy with. But my family have had a few things to say on the matter. They think I’m spoiling my dc and ridiculous for giving eldest ds our bedroom. But I think due to circumstances we have made the best decision. Both me and ds are one of 4 children and we both are to share with our siblings which we hated as we had no privacy what so ever. I admit that I made a snide comment saying I want better for my dc and that they didn’t ask tone born, we decided to have them, so why shouldn’t we do what we feel is best for them. I know at the end of the day it’s our decision but I’m sick of being questioned and made to tee like I’m stupid for being willing to give up our room. But my dc come first. They always have an always will. So why do people have a problem?

In London boroughs dining rooms are a thing of the past and I'm sure that's the same elsewhere. LA, HA or private rental with housing benefit the 'dining room' would be counted as a bedroom.
Nobody's business, enjoy your new home.

I gave a master (rather big) bedroom for my 2 children to share (they are primary school aged). I’m not going to give up my bedroom so both of them had a bedroom. I shared a bedroom with my sibling during childhood and I’m fine. We wouldn’t have any privacy as parents if I did give up our bedroom. However, if one of my children had special needs, I would probably make the same choice as you.
I don’t see how it’s your family’s business but they probably are tying to be “helpful”, I guess.

StopGo yep dining rooms are classed as a bedroom where I live (London Borough)

No one's business but yours and it makes you all happy, good for you

Way back in the 60s, I was one of 7 kids in a 3 bed and a box room house. 4 boys had the biggest room, 2 girls had the second bed and Mum and Dad went in bunk beds in the box room.

You do what works for your family

I think this makes you wonderful parents x

It sounds like essentially what you have is a downstairs bedroom, which is perfectly fine! When you first said you were sleeping in the dining room I had visions of you sleeping under the dining table and being woken up by the kids eating breakfast and accidentally kicking you in the face each day. That's probably what people are being a little funny about A converted downstairs bedroom sounds lovely, and probably quite nice too to have your own space on a different floor away from the kids!

Yes, stop calling it the dining room, it’s the downstairs bedroom. It’s not something other people should decide for you, it’s your home. The next comment should get a firm but polite ‘this is what works for us’ and a refusal to engage any further.